Would you date someone that was lazy eyed/cross eyed? (woman, therapy)

[786man]

Here's the issue. I was born with congenital glaucoma and due to all the surgeries I had when Iwas young, it caused me to develop strabismus due to all the scarred muscle tissue.

At school, I am constantly berated due to my eyes and it has caused a severe impact on my confidence and composure around girls and just people in general. I am going to be a senior next year and I had ambitions to go to homecoming and prom and the like, but I am too nervous to even approach girls. I know I may seem like I'm just looking for pity, but really I'm just looking for answers and advice.

So would you ate someone with this condition?

Just incase you wanted to see, here I am lol

[Harpaint]

Of course! You look fine.

[cindersslipper]

Omg to this day The Sexiest Man I've Ever Been With had a shocking lazy eye - like REALLY bad. You'd be talking to him and it would just swivel to the side.

It's pretty rare in Australia due to our public health system. Most folks get it fixed, I'm not sure why Hot Guys wasn't.

He was still GORGEOUS and the One That Got Away.

Yummmmmmmmmo

So no, I don't find it a turn off, if anything its kinda sexy. There's an Aussie actor with a turn to his eye very similar to yours and HUBBAHUBBA ..........

[HappyFarm34]

Try not to draw attention to it by not informing others that it bothers you. Some people use humor in regards to their condition they have which can boost confidence. If someone asks about your eyes, be honest. Don't let it define who you are.

[funymann]

So glasses cannot help correct it?

I knew a guy like this. If he wore glasses they would straighten out.

The guy was crazy and did some crazy stuff with them. Freaked me right out. He said he could be focused on something to the right while talking to someone right in front of him.

Don't know why I said that but make light of it if called out about it.

"Why is your eye over there?"

"Who said that?!" Lol?

[cindersslipper]

I believe it is related to eyesight, the eye that goes sideways is often blind or visually impaired.

I believe also that surgery can correct it.

It's very rare in Australia as we have public health which fixes it in childhood.

A friend's daughter had a lazy eye, she was supposed to wear eye patches as a little one to avoid the surgery, the muscles can correct on their own...but try keeping a patch on a 2 year old. Her eye still wanders when she's tired.

[Teckeeee]

Just tell them you are Forest Whitaker.

Seriously, as suggested don't let it define you.

It's really not that noticeable to me.

[mochamajesty]

No, surgery does not always work - especially when you wait to have it fixed.

My eye doc told me that after the age of 2, it's a crapshoot whether surgery will help.

It's more of a brain issue than a muscle issue. Surgery will fix the hardware (eye muscles), but the brain will not use the eye that wanders unless the person utilizes vision therapy - which in the US insurance does not normally cover.

To answer the original question:

I used to suffer from strabismus since birth. I have had, to date, six surgeries. The last one finally worked, and my eyes look normal except when I am tired.

While it would be nice to say that people ignore it, they do not. People looked at me with disgust or pity when I walked down the street..Or, they would turn around to see what I'm looking at and then ignore me as if I were not there. To this day, I cannot make eye contact in a crowded room or while walking down the street.

I truly feel your pain. It's hard to say whether people will overlook it. In my case, they did not. I'm a woman, though and we are judged more harshly on looks IMO.

Good luck.

[cindersslipper]

the guy on the left.

From Australian tv series Rush.

sigh...

[rosebyanothername]

I doubt that I would have even noticed it had you not pointed it out.