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I have been dating my Muslim girlfriend for 5 years. She wasn't religious. A few months ago she started to wear a hijab or even burqa. Why does she want me to convert to Islam and marry her or we'll have to break up?
You should ask her why. Many people change denominations to the same as their spouse. If you stay with her & get married, are you happy to have your children raised as Muslim? Do you have a religion you practise now or are you atheist? This could be a large obstacle in your life. Why has she suddenly become more conservative ( burqa etc) Are her family like that?
I ask her but she doesn't want to tell me. Her family is very conservative. I'm an atheist. I planning to read Quran for information about her religion.
I have been dating my Muslim girlfriend for 5 years. She wasn't religious. A few months ago she started to wear a hijab or even burqa. Why does she want me to convert to Islam and marry her or we'll have to break up?
My guess is, that her parents are putting pressure on her to finally get on with the wedding and marriage, and they want it to be an Islamic wedding. They also want her to be a "proper married woman", meaning--modest.
Probably because many religious people want their SO to be religious as well (or, believe they must be). Probably because people who are newly-religious are pretty gung-ho about it.
If you don't want to convert, don't. Yes, you will lose the relationship. But at least you won't lose yourself by having to become someone you're not. When someone you're involved with wants you to make a major change to who you are, it's a bad sign.
Don’t bother asking. Just break it off and escape before locked into a horrible marriage. It’s one thing to politely ask if you would convert, it’s another when it’s an ultimatum. Once it becomes an ultimatum then that’s a seriously big red flag regardless of the religion. Walk away.
I have been dating my Muslim girlfriend for 5 years. She wasn't religious. A few months ago she started to wear a hijab or even burqa. Why does she want me to convert to Islam and marry her or we'll have to break up?
It's likely because she would like to raise the potential children of your marriage in her faith (especially since you have no faith of your own).
With what's been going on in the world these past few months, some people have renewed interest in spiritual matters--especially those who were raised in a religious (or even somewhat religious) home. They take comfort in their faith, so it's understandable that your girlfriend might have returned to her family's religious traditions at this time.
What's odd, though, is that she either cannot or will not discuss her reasons for the recent ultimatums that she gave you regarding conversion and marriage. Even if you weren't an atheist and were willing to convert, that lack of communication is concerning.
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I ask her but she doesn't want to tell me. Her family is very conservative. I'm an atheist. I planning to read Quran for information about her religion.
How great can a relationship really be if one partner "doesn't want to discuss" something so important with the other and then hands them an ultimatum? Regardless what the reason actually is, sounds as if this isn't the only issue you two are going to face if someone isn't willing to communicate.
Last edited by Parnassia; 07-06-2020 at 05:44 PM..
I have been dating my Muslim girlfriend for 5 years. She wasn't religious. A few months ago she started to wear a hijab or even burqa. Why does she want me to convert to Islam and marry her or we'll have to break up?
Does she want you to convert to Islam? Please clarify.
Totally off the top of my head, many people are thinking more of mortality due to the COVID situation. With that thinking she may be turning to the religion of her family to find answers. For her to be faithful to that religious belief she becomes more traditional, wearing garb and changing her expectations of relationships. That would also mean expectations of her partner in life.
The person she is now wants a Muslim husband not an atheist boyfriend.
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