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I'm a 21yr old man who doesn't have much dating experience but I'm not picky. The only things I call for are: 1.) Good accent (where I live in Ireland there are some people with the equivalent of redneck accent). 2.) No fake tans and 3.) Good teeth.
It probably is a bit shallow and hypocritical seeing as I don't have good teeth but I've always been subconsciously turned off by women with a "gummy smile" where the incisors are too short and the gum shows or the opposite a "horsie smile" where the incisors are too large.
For me really, a good smile beats a woman's breasts or butt (I've never understood the fascination). Would this be the case for other men who are in the dating game?
I'm a 21yr old man who doesn't have much dating experience but I'm not picky. The only things I call for are: 1.) Good accent (where I live in Ireland there are some people with the equivalent of redneck accent). 2.) No fake tans and 3.) Good teeth.
It probably is a bit shallow and hypocritical seeing as I don't have good teeth but I've always been subconsciously turned off by women with a "gummy smile" where the incisors are too short and the gum shows or the opposite a "horsie smile" where the incisors are too large.
For me really, a good smile beats a woman's breasts or butt (I've never understood the fascination). Would this be the case for other men who are in the dating game?
People like what they like. It's not shallow in general to have standards, unless looks are the ONLY factor you're considering. That is truly shallow.
The bigger problem here is that you reject women for a characteristic that you admit to having yourself. So yes, in my mind hypocritical kicks shallow's *** every time.
It sounds shallow to me but based on the equivalent here in America I am probably guilty of the same. I am from a posher sector and I wont date people who show signs of low class. Which here is like dirty clothes, signs of drug use (being underweight, unkempt), people without education, people living on benefits.
Accent doesnt matter here I guess. We judge class by other things. Though actually accent probably does matter. We just dont think of these things. Its just in the background, not something we discuss.
It sounds shallow to me but based on the equivalent here in America I am probably guilty of the same. I am from a posher sector and I wont date people who show signs of low class. Which here is like dirty clothes, signs of drug use (being underweight, unkempt), people without education, people living on benefits.
Accent doesnt matter here I guess. We judge class by other things. Though actually accent probably does matter. We just dont think of these things. Its just in the background, not something we discuss.
So, I dont blame you.
Same here. I wouldn't even consider someone who didn't come from my background. It's just not going to work and life is too short to try and overcome the differences.
You like what you like, but the things you mentioned could limit the amount of women who fit your criteria.
Teeth can be fixed. What if she gets a *fake tan* one time while you are together? Would you break up with her? Even if she was perfect for you in every other way?
How about focusing on the good things that you are looking for in a woman/relationship. That seems more productive.
In the US, teeth are a sign of socioeconomic status. Same for the working class accent. In my zip code, a tan on May 1 means you ski or you could afford the trip south to have leisure time in the warm sun. I suppose a fake tan is like a knockoff purse pretending affluence you don’t have. I ski so my friends tend to have deep skier tans at this time of year in non-pandemic times.
The pragmatic reality is that if you’re searching out a long term relationship, you’re probably going to filter on cues of socioeconomic status. The economically successful couples in the US tend to be dual income and college educated. It’s rational to be looking for those cues.
Most of us have preferences. Many women prefer tall men and won't date a man shorter than they are.
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