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I shadow this doctor and i have met this guy who works there ( no, guy is not doctor). We met 3 weeks ago and from day 1 i have huge crush on me. We didn't talk for first week or so but would say "hello"and would have lot of eye contact. Since then we have been talking and it seems like he is trying to get to know me by asking me question about my life and he has given me detail about his life. He has always try to impress me. We have been staring, smiling and having lot of eye contact when around people.
Fast forword to last week, i was asked to help him out. I don't know what happen but i got all excited and started talking to him nonstop while ignoring the fact that we were at work. At first it seemed like he liked answering my question but then at the one point he just lost it. In between all these, i have tried to escape situation but he kept holding me there by telling me he needs my help. When i was done helping and was about to leave he said " he can't get anything done".
He was definately blaming me for him being distracted??? I realized i totally annoyed this guy, i was so embarrased later. I decided to change shift to avoid seeing him again but with amount of work load this place has i ended up seeing him again. I realized that this guy was so pissed at me that he has done all work for so he doesn't have to deal with me. When i ask him if he needs any help he became all annoyed and rude.. I just left the whole situation..
Now all you will be telling me that this kind of behavior is not acceptable at work and i accept my mistake. But i felt like his behavior was out of line and not at all okay. All i did was talking to a guy i was interested in after i received some response from his end but again i know it wasn't right time. What do you guys think of his behavior?? I can't just leave this place and i have decided to switch day/shifts to avoid him. Is it good move to cool down situation?? I don't want him to think like i am like some crazy chick. Also, i feel like i destroyed my chances with him.
You never had any chances. You behaved unprofessionally, disruptive and annoying. You have a crush on your coworker, and you lost control over your behavior.
I would suggest you change shifts, or better - start looking for another job. This, or you are looking for serious trouble at work.
You never had any chances. You behaved unprofessionally, disruptive and annoying. You have a crush on your coworker, and you lost control over your behavior.
I would suggest you change shifts, or better - start looking for another job. This, or you are looking for serious trouble at work.
I had chance if i didn't act that way. This isn't job technically, i work there for free in return i get training..
I think you took it bit more than what it is. This was one time incident, previously we have always talked during lunch breaks. I probably should have posted more detail interaction for that day. But anyways, thanks for your response.
What did I just read? Honestly. This is why there are workplace policies against such things. Silly idea, come to work to do some work... Not to find a hookup. Honestly.
You're supposed to be helping him and you kept talking a lot about stuff that is not work related. That is a distraction and that is your fault. His behavior is understandable. He has no idea you have a crush on him, let alone the fact that you two are not in any sort of relationship thus he has no standing or duty other than to be aggravated at having to work with you again.
Are you highly sensitive, an extreme introvert or perhaps don't have much/any experience with men? Something's up, as your lack of self-awareness and romantic feelings are trying to force you to transfer some of the blame to him. Whatever is going on you need to step back and get yourself to the point of accepting responsibility, and then learn from this experience. Many couples meet at work but it's gotta be done correctly.
He's a doctor...not a ...grocery store clerk! There are implications from distracting him and you didn't care enough to even think about that...you gave it a shot and ticked him off. Now avoid him at all costs and find someone else to crush on in a little more mature way.
you never had any chances. You behaved unprofessionally, disruptive and annoying. You have a crush on your coworker, and you lost control over your behavior.
I would suggest you change shifts, or better - start looking for another job. This, or you are looking for serious trouble at work.
Gotta go with this. You messed up. You're not a bad person. But you did handle things immaturely and less than tactfully. So, if he did like you, you turned him off with your non-professionalism.
I would say try to avoid making small talk with him anymore and concentrate on your job. If you simply can't let it go, you could try apologizing to him for distracting him that time, and comment it won't happen again. At best however.
Otherwise, move on as best you can. You won't be the only one to either turn a crush off, or even have them not like you. It happened to be in school where I liked guys and did something that either turned them off, or they just never liked me in the 1st place and were blunt abut it. It happens. You handle it as best you can.
He's a doctor...not a ...grocery store clerk! There are implications from distracting him and you didn't care enough to even think about that...you gave it a shot and ticked him off. Now avoid him at all costs and find someone else to crush on in a little more mature way.
He is not doctor , he is medical assistant.
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