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OP, what you have sounds like exactly what I want too. Sounds perfect (and I am you age, so maybe it does have something to do with our age). I agree with this poster:
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Originally Posted by Ruth4Truth
The important thing is that you're both on the same page. Who cares what anyone else thinks? Too bad others sometimes feel they have to impose their opinions on people. Congrats on finding what sounds like a great partner for you, though!
6 months isn't really that long so I don't see a problem with where you are. I also think your age and experience probably has something to do with it as well.
Personally, I wouldn't want to be in a long term relationship that didn't have some direction. After about a year, I would want something to change - at least a discussion about moving forward.
Everyone is different. If it ain't broke, don't **** with it.
The important thing is that you're both on the same page. Who cares what anyone else thinks? Too bad others sometimes feel they have to impose their opinions on people. Congrats on finding what sounds like a great partner for you, though!
well said. as long you two are happy, that is all that counts.
Sounds like the perfect relationship to me. I don't think it's all that common for people in our age group though. I would count myself incredibly lucky if I were you. Congrats!
As long as the two of you are happy, it doesn't matter if 99.9999% of the population disagrees with you.
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I've never experienced this in terms of a relationship because I ultimately wanted to get married and possibly have children. But sometimes life is about the journey - and not the destination. If you are enjoying the journey - then journey on!
I only wonder if how things will be when you're out of the 'honeymoon' phase, cause 6 months in you're typically all into each other and all of that....
So as casual as it sounds now, it seems like you might just turn into pen pals in another yr or two......
Sounds a little too passion-less for most folks... but again.... whatever works for people...
You shouldn't worry about what your friends think, as long as both of you are happy that's really all that matters. For the record, I'm in a very similar situation as you. I've been with my G/F for about 10 months now, we have discussed this a lot, and we have no intention of getting married anytime in the near future. I'm 48 and she's 46, I've never been married and she has been widowed close to 20 years. While we share many similar interests and do a lot together, we still have things we do on our own. She stays at my place three or four times a week, and this works perfectly. I don't feel like I'm wasting my time at all, and neither does she.
I have not, but I think you made your case well with:
"Personally, I don't think they have to lead to anything. If you're happy with what you have, then who cares if it's not headed towards marriage. I don't see that as wasted time, provided neither person feels like the other person is misleading them."
Sounds fair to me! You don't need your friend's approval. Enjoy your relationship.
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