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What do single men & women over 50 want in a relationship & mate?
I will be 51 one in a few months. Female, fit, professional, single & financially capable. Just wondering. I've been single since my divorce in 2004 and it's been challenging and yet I've learned so much about myself, self worth and values in a relationship. Now, well, it seems that in my age range, it's quite different. Realizing everyone will have their own preferences for their own reasons, I'm not looking for definitive answers... but I would love hearing the opinions of men and women in my age range about what they too have learned and what they want in a relationship at this time in their lives. Hugs to all dating after 50...
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Hello Lovingover50, I'm in the same "club" as you, if there is such a thing.
Divorced for just over 2 years and put my big toe in the dating pool about 7 months ago.
I'd want the same thing as any 30 or 40 year old. Semi-commitment, but with plenty of 'me' time.
However, I'm finding most men our age are either looking for younger women or are thinking ahead to early retirement and want a nurse with a purse.
I am not dating for a good while. What I will be looking for when I am in an apartment that accepts them is a good dog to keep me company.
They're faithful and loyal, follow you around even when you are in a sad and depressed mood trying to let you know they are there for you. The jump up and greet you when they haven't seen you in a while and treat you like you are the most important person in their life. They never get tired of you. They spill food and they clean up after themselves.
A dog slobbers less on me when it shows me affection than some men I have been with. And the real bonus of owning a dog is that if it strays, I can get him neutered.
They want the same things 50 year old females want...except they still want to have sex
Let's all just boil it down and make it sound good so we do not come off as jaded old grumps though.
They want a "companion"
Granted, I have no experience with having sex with women over 50, but I think it's a bit of a myth that women suddenly become "unsexual" as they age. 50s is way before nursing home age... way before, and nursing homes are so sexually active that it's one of places you find STDs hugely on the rise.
I think the sexless woman concept comes from marriages that should have ended/the man and woman no longer love/want each other.
But I agree with the companion bit. I'm not 50 (so I can't really claim to know what men and women 50+ want), but it seems like no matter what the age, it all boils down to having a companion/lover to share life with.
I somehow got lucky and met my new husband when I was 46. It is more of a challenge getting into a new relationship in middle age. Most anybody will have baggage, divorce, inflexibility ..mentally and physically.
But my only other option was to just stay alone. I divorced at age 41.
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