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Im not sure why you are calling her the ex girlfriend. Sounds like they have a pretty good relationship. Not sure what part you are holding in this. Seems like she's the girlfriend, you you are....what?
Im not sure why you are calling her the ex girlfriend. Sounds like they have a pretty good relationship. Not sure what part you are holding in this. Seems like she's the girlfriend, you you are....what?
^This. Sounds as if SHE is the girlfriend. You are right. You are the third wheel. Roll away.
Even worse than third wheelness, you are probably in his head mostly the thing that he's using to try to make the other girl jealous.
Tell him in no uncertain terms that in your opinion, guys don't have female friends. Either he will stop seeing his ex, or you.
If he refuses to chose, you might want to find a nice guy friend too, and spend a few days/ evenings with him, instead of going out with your BF. See, if he finds it cool.
Then again, if you cannot find a common ground on this issue after the initial talk, it's better to break up early rather than later.
^I second the bolded.
Everyone is different.
When I was still just dating around, if the guy has a female best friend, it was game over. In my personal opinion as well, guys just can't be 'friends' or be 'close friends' with another female. It's just not possible.
A guy with a female best friend is a deal breaker for me. I straight up ask this question right off the bat, "Do you have a female best/close friend?" It's not that I have trust issues or whatever, it's just an unnecessary drama I would rather not have to deal with. I wouldn't make him choose. I'd just get out/stop dating him.
I mean, let's say your bf stopped hanging out with the ex as much and chose to be with you. If you ever have a fight, who do you think he'll run to? Will you be ok with that? After that moment, he'll probably feel silly dropping the "friend" because of you and he'll resent you...yara yara...so as the bolded, better to do it earlier than later.
at the very best...she still wants him, he truly doesn't want her...BUT HE IS taking advantage of her...do you really want to be with someone like that
but I would be there is more going on...he has you, the new girl...but he cant totally give up the old girl...
I have told him how I feel. He says I just don't get it. That I have nothing to worry about she is just his friend. I told him sex was not what I am worried about. She says if her name was Tim there wouldn't be a problem. I said it doesn't matter if this other person was male or female. It they are getting so much of his time, going out of their way for each other so much, clearly that's where they want to be.
I happen to be living with him at his sisters house. It's a very big house, we have the bottom floor to ourselves. I have gone over there with him, he is all smiles and clearly cares about her very much. It's not that I mind them being friends, its that she feels the need to buy him things and go shopping for him. I tell him it's just not right to take a shower at another woman's house. He does not care it bothers me he says I am insecure and jealous.
I have told him how I feel. He says I just don't get it. That I have nothing to worry about she is just his friend. I told him sex was not what I am worried about. She says if her name was Tim there wouldn't be a problem. I said it doesn't matter if this other person was male or female. It they are getting so much of his time, going out of their way for each other so much, clearly that's where they want to be.
I happen to be living with him at his sisters house. It's a very big house, we have the bottom floor to ourselves. I have gone over there with him, he is all smiles and clearly cares about her very much. It's not that I mind them being friends, its that she feels the need to buy him things and go shopping for him. I tell him it's just not right to take a shower at another woman's house. He does not care it bothers me he says I am insecure and jealous.
at the very best...she still wants him, he truly doesn't want her...BUT HE IS taking advantage of her...do you really want to be with someone like that
but I would be there is more going on...he has you, the new girl...but he cant totally give up the old girl...
He says she has always been there for him. And that's just the way she is, generous.
She left him to be with a woman and she still lives with her girlfriend. She said she doesn't have any friends she can call to come work for her when she needs help, like plumbing, yard stuff, put up car port stuff like that. He says she is like family to him.
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