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The most sexually experienced women I was with was terrible in bed, and she never got better. Some of the less experienced ones started off good and got awesome...
There you go.
But we are talking about 40+ virgins, not 20+ virgins. The window to get better at 40+ is not as long as 20+. The odds of someone becoming a great lover that is a 40+ is significantly lower due to lack of experience.
Actually no. I was attracted to his sweet-natured personality. He knows that I like him & dropped hints by asking let's catch a bite of eat somewhere. His answer was no.
Good question. He is an active member of large Church so its beyond me why he hasn't found anyone yet. What you mean by immature language? He oftens jokes about sex and boobs.
Not anything around whether or not he jokes about sex, but more about what is his sexual experience on the bases scale.
He doesn't have sex. Does he hold hands, hug, kiss, kiss with tongue, heavy petting...etc!
One of my friends waited till marriage and married in her 30s. Her husband also waited, so they married as virgins. They were physically intimate, but stopped before intercourse, before they got married. And didn't let things escalate into 3rd base. They both had honest discussions with friends/family/doctors to figure out what they were comfortable with, and now they have a satisfying sex life and a kid!
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No idea. That talk hasn't been brought up. He's highly religious believing sex before marriage is a sin.
He only has been in 2 short term relationships that led to nowhere.
I don't really get the whole "waiting until marriage" part either. It would be better to see if both is sexually compatible before marriage than after.
I'd like to drill deeper into this. I have met people who not only believe sex before marriage is a sin, but physical contact is off limits too. So that means no hugs, no hand holding and no kissing! Yuck! That is way too conservative. If he means, hey anything besides intercourse is fair game it is entirely different than no physical contact at all.
It sounds like you aren't quite on the same plane for relationship maturity/expectations.
Most don't. You're statistic of 1-3% is incorrect and should between 7-10%. The reason the numbers are low is most 40+ virgins don't go around announcing it to the world. They simply keep it to themselves.
In 2009 when George Sodini walked into a gym and shoot 8 women and killed 3, they later went to his blog and myspace page, they found detailed accounts of his life, it turned out he had not had a girlfriend since 1986, and had not had sex since 1991. he had trouble attracting women, and was socially awkward but most people who knew him liked him. He tried everything he could to find a mate, bought books, used dating sites, speed dating etc etc... with all that effort he was 48 and even he managed to have sex twice before he turned 40. sad that loneliness caused him to snap like that.
In 2009 when George Sodini walked into a gym and shoot 8 women and killed 3, they later went to his blog and myspace page, they found detailed accounts of his life, it turned out he had not had a girlfriend since 1986, and had not had sex since 1991. he had trouble attracting women, and was socially awkward but most people who knew him liked him. He tried everything he could to find a mate, bought books, used dating sites, speed dating etc etc... with all that effort he was 48 and even he managed to have sex twice before he turned 40. sad that loneliness caused him to snap like that.
You guys are missing a very important point. It takes several years for a man to reach a point where he can control his ejaculation long enough to fully please a woman.
I had sex first when I was 16 and it took a lot of practice to get to a point where you can go 20-30 minutes without ejaculating.
Most women will not put up with a guy who has the sexual maturity of a teenager at age 40. He will disappoint you for years before he gets there.
To me the man the OP describes would have such a huge gap in life experience. Definitely the sexual you mention above, plus he has had no long term relationships.
I would feel like I was dating a kid in 40 year old body.
That would not be attractive to me.
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But we are talking about 40+ virgins, not 20+ virgins. The window to get better at 40+ is not as long as 20+. The odds of someone becoming a great lover that is a 40+ is significantly lower due to lack of experience.
It doesn't take much time to "get better". Virgins are very eager learners. But a lot depends on their character, just like with non-virgins; are they considerate, kind, thoughtful? Or narcissistic? Guess which option would make a lousy lover, even with 20 years of opportunity to "get better"?
from looking at his videos the only mental illness that was obvious was being a neatfreak.
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