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Originally Posted by jade408
So for me a good mate has his own life and adventures and wants to share. And I have my own to share. And we can create new ones together. But I'm not holding out until a mate shows up.
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THIS.
I needed to see this post. Just reading it put some things into perspective for me.
Unfortunately, I was that guy you described (except I'm a girl). I have some of my own interests, but have kind of floated through life with no real passion. Wake up, work, sleep, repeat. I've always dealt with being very shy and having most of my college friends scattered around the country has made it hard for me to go out and meet new people or join things that seem interesting to me. I was the only thing standing in the way of myself.
For the first time ever, I started dating a guy last year. He had so much going on. Lots of things he was involved in, and he brought me into his world. Suddenly I went from sitting at home every weekend to going out, going to parties, and spending every weekend with him and the variety of his friends. He introduced me to so many new things and I loved every minute of it.
Then we broke up about 2 months ago.
And suddenly, my life went back to exactly how it was before we dated. Losing this new, exciting, and busy lifestyle was maybe just as devastating as losing him. But the experience showed me that life is so much better when you go after things you like.
I'm still struggling with getting used to my life being MY life and not revolving around anyone else. But I have started seeking out opportunities for things to get involved with more than I ever thought I was capable of.
I don't want to be the one waiting for life to start when I finally meet someone. I want to be the partner in crime that someone else is looking for.