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Okay I know this may sound a bit silly but I want others view on it.
My boyfriend's best friend's wife is very verbal and sometimes acts inappropriately and says things that have no filter. Anyway, the other night when we were all in the car, she noticed some girls walking on the street and loudly made a comment about how hot they were. And my boyfriend made a comment that supported her observation. He didnt initiate the commenting. All he said in response to her loud observation was that the girls were "beautiful".
I found it very immature and disrespectful. When I told him about it, he agrees that her comment was immature but he doesn't understand how it can be disrespectful to me since she made a comment about the same sex.
I guess what bothered me was the fact that he had to verbally approve her comment. I mean, when I notice many hot men, I don't verbalize it.
Anyway, I would love to know if I am overreacting or not. and curious to know if this would bother others or no.
Thanks
I don't understand. The girlfriend made the comment in the first place. Is she a lesbian? Does she normally comment on women that she passes by? I would think that was odd.
I don't understand. The girlfriend made the comment in the first place. Is she a lesbian? Does she normally comment on women that she passes by? I would think that was odd.
Often it's attention-seeking behavior. Some women do it in front of men because they think it makes THEM look sexy/attractive/cool to the men in the group.
Women can recognize attractiveness in other women without being lesbians. But it sounds like the friend is just a loose cannon.
IDK, sounds like insecurity to me. People notice attractive people; it's completely normal and plenty of couples are comfortable enough with each other that they don't have to pretend not to notice. Just keep it classy.
Often it's attention-seeking behavior. Some women do it in front of men because they think it makes THEM look sexy/attractive/cool to the men in the group.
Women can recognize attractiveness in other women without being lesbians. But it sounds like the friend is just a loose cannon.
Of course! But to make such a comment to others, loudly, well I find that to be a bit wacko. Loose cannon, for sure.
I'm thinking overreaction. I wouldn't consider it disrespectful to me, personally, were I in your shoes. Now, if he's said something like, "yeah, way more beautiful than (insert your name)__________"... now that'd be disrespectful. There are many beautiful people out there in the world... eventually, you're gonna run into one.
I think you're overreacting. People don't become blind when in a relationship. And the comments made weren't lewd or salacious - they only noticed attractive women. Your bf only agreed they were beautiful, not hot or something to objectify them or disrespect you.
We are very secure in our relationship, and will point out attractive people to each other that we might enjoy seeing. It provides a little hit of pleasure, like a pretty sunset. We may even say why we think they're attractive people - and that in no way diminishes our attraction for each other. If anything, it confirms it.
So this is about your boyfriend's best friend's wife???
It really doesn't have anything to do with you. It involves the husband and wife. It doesn't seem to bother the husband much. Could be a bit brash.. immature sure... there are lots of people like that.
I think you are overreacting. I wouldn't go as far as to say you or any of those involved are insecure.... just a bit sensitive.
Okay I know this may sound a bit silly but I want others view on it.
My boyfriend's best friend's wife is very verbal and sometimes acts inappropriately and says things that have no filter. Anyway, the other night when we were all in the car, she noticed some girls walking on the street and loudly made a comment about how hot they were. And my boyfriend made a comment that supported her observation. He didnt initiate the commenting. All he said in response to her loud observation was that the girls were "beautiful".
I found it very immature and disrespectful. When I told him about it, he agrees that her comment was immature but he doesn't understand how it can be disrespectful to me since she made a comment about the same sex.
I guess what bothered me was the fact that he had to verbally approve her comment. I mean, when I notice many hot men, I don't verbalize it.
Anyway, I would love to know if I am overreacting or not. and curious to know if this would bother others or no.
Thanks
The only thing immature about this situation is YOU and YOUR reaction to it.
Grow up, it isn't all about you and it is normal for people to comment on another's physical beauty, no filter needed,
Of course! But to make such a comment to others, loudly, well I find that to be a bit wacko. Loose cannon, for sure.
No it isn't, I point out attractive women/ their outfits/shoes to Mr. CSD often.
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