Does anyone else have hangups with guys who always are joking and you can't ever see who the person really is, feels?

[Amelie90]

Originally Posted by Yiuppy

I have been having an extremely difficult time just having a conversation with a guy recently and I can't figure out what has changed. Communicating has been really hard and lots of joking and sarcasm and I just guess we're not compatible. Its too hard to have a conversation suddenly. Known him five years and never felt like this.

I asked him tonight what is the humor masking. Many times I just want to have a conversation with someone and not feel like I'm at a comedy club. We have lots of conversations that aren't clowning, but it seems like a lot of the time it's just clowning, hardly ever intimate or about true feelings. Maybe this is how people talk normally but it seems to lack substance.

Is this video game guy again?

[Ginge McFantaPants]

Nah. The Mr. and I are both like that. Some people find it irritating, but we "get" each other and can generally read when it's time to dial it back temporarily when needed.

[UnaWilde]

Originally Posted by Yiuppy

Everyone likes a guy who's funny but sometimes I don't want wit or sarcasm or jokes, just true feelings and real openness. I don't feel this when a guy is always on ten and joking most of the time.

Does this make any sense?

A balance is better than non stop standup comedy or a serious stoic guy.

Constant clowning is a sign of emotional unavailability. This is why I stay away from women who giggle all the time and can't stay on one topic at a time

Yes, I've spent many years chasing men who kept things fun, full of energy...and found that most of them have untreated ADD or some kind of emotional unavailability and just can't sustain a relationship.

Agree I had a colleague like that later turned out he was diagnosed manic depressive