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Originally Posted by CCUGal
BECAUSE HE KNEW HE WOULD HAVE TO PAY. Jeez why are there some that like to make everything into a big deal.
PS - obviously I didn't make him too uncomfortable because when we went into the mall he took me into a jewelry store to try on engagement rings. Oops. I left that out. Any girl would see that as a red flag.
All just please stop with some of this BS you are giving me. He was a clinger and a cheapskate and i love how most people who are disagreeing are men. Grow up.
Why would he have to pay when you were asking? Certainly you weren't asking him to dinner and then expecting him to pay, were you?
That is beyond rude. It's time for you to grow up.
BECAUSE HE KNEW HE WOULD HAVE TO PAY. Jeez why are there some that like to make everything into a big deal.
PS - obviously I didn't make him too uncomfortable because when we went into the mall he took me into a jewelry store to try on engagement rings. Oops. I left that out. Any girl would see that as a red flag.
All just please stop with some of this BS you are giving me. He was a clinger and a cheapskate and i love how most people who are disagreeing are men. Grow up.
I agree that he had red flags, but so do you with your entitlement issues.
If you want to know why you attract dysfunctional guys, you might want to look at this.
Good point. I wonder how she worded it. If it was stated neutrally, he'd probably think they'd be splitting the bill. If she hinted that he should pay for everything, that would explain the discomfort. Or maybe he didn't want to spend money on dinner even if they split the bill? Does dining out cost a lot more in Europe, or something? It certainly does in Switzerland, I don't know about Germany. Of course, it depends on the venue, too.
We discussed the subject several times and every time he assured me he had no problem paying when we went out but I could tell he was lying. It got to the point I just came out and said, "look I know you are uncomfortable with paying to go on dates and if that's the way it's going to be, I can't be with someone like that." And he didn't even fight me on it.
We discussed the subject several times and every time he assured me he had no problem paying when we went out but I could tell he was lying. It got to the point I just came out and said, "look I know you are uncomfortable with paying to go on dates and if that's the way it's going to be, I can't be with someone like that." And he didn't even fight me on it.
Yep, you threw out some pretty big red flags yourself.
BECAUSE HE KNEW HE WOULD HAVE TO PAY. Jeez why are there some that like to make everything into a big deal.
PS - obviously I didn't make him too uncomfortable because when we went into the mall he took me into a jewelry store to try on engagement rings. Oops. I left that out. Any girl would see that as a red flag.
All just please stop with some of this BS you are giving me. He was a clinger and a cheapskate and i love how most people who are disagreeing are men. Grow up.
What??!! That's very weird. It also speaks to the fact that he really wasn't all that cheap, he just had different dating norms, if he was willing to buy an engagement ring but was accustomed to free dates.
I don't mind doing free things (everyone should love free things) but that's all we were doing in the short time we had known each other. When I kept asking him to go out, he never mentioned taking me somewhere that cost money. And when I would ask about going to dinner, he would get uncomfortable. So this quote isn't completely true.
he probably thought you are a princess / gold digger, just using him to get a free meal.
BECAUSE HE KNEW HE WOULD HAVE TO PAY. Jeez why are there some that like to make everything into a big deal.
PS - obviously I didn't make him too uncomfortable because when we went into the mall he took me into a jewelry store to try on engagement rings. Oops. I left that out. Any girl would see that as a red flag.
All just please stop with some of this BS you are giving me. He was a clinger and a cheapskate and i love how most people who are disagreeing are men. Grow up.
Germans spend money differently.
Expensive meals - no.
Rings - yes.
Why? Because you will still have the ring in 20 years while the meal is long forgotten. German logic
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That's very weird. It also speaks to the fact that he really wasn't all that cheap, he just had different dating norms, if he was willing to buy an engagement ring but was accustomed to free dates.
