How many men actually get laid at bars? (friend, casual, feeling)
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Back in he 1970s, I used to live in Manhattan, NYC. Before anyone even knew of AIDS. I probably spent five or six nights a week out at the clubs. It was paradise. Assuming you had a little money, you could bar-hop all night long. Sometimes I'd go home with a girl, sometimes not. I guess it was a crapshoot. Of course, it helps if you're 25 years old.
I grew up in the 80's and by the mid 80's aids was pretty full blown epidemic, more so than even now I'd say. I hear that they've made a lot of drugs that can control it pretty well, and people are living longer and longer.
I just wish they'd get a handle on cancer, been losing too many people to that damn nightmare.
From personal observation having worked around the corner from a big night club when I was younger, I used to see ONLY the bouncers go home with women. Everyone else came and left with the girls or boys they came with.
Of the five times I've been to a bar in my life, I noticed the guys were sitting at their tables, and the girls at theirs, and each were nervously looking around the room but no one was approaching anyone. My neighbor used to go to those things ALL the time and he always came home alone, well except for one time...but that turned out to be his sister I later found out.
I saw him at the bar a couple times after that and he looked nervous as MUCK! Closed body language, looking around nervously, showing that he is there looking but doesn't have the confidence to approach.
In any case, I venture to guess not many. I think many women use these places as a way to reassure themselves that they are hot, get free drinks, get hit on, but ultimately turn guys down.
Most girls I went home with from the bars or clubs I already kind of knew before hand. I have experienced a few one-night-stands in my past career but those days are long gone. I must admit large amounts of alcohol had something to do with it. I found it much easier to pickup women outside of bars and clubs. They tend to be much more guarded at these venues then anywhere else unless you happen to come across a loose sl*t that is aways ready to bang.
Yeah, I did the bar thing...kind of.
I was working at a major NYC tourist attraction, it was 1989 and on my break I stopped in a bar at this attraction. A young woman I barely knew was in there having a drink. We exchanged hellos and got to talking; I had to get back to work (I was a parking lot attendant) and told her so. Near the end of my shift, she came out to the parking lot and met me. We stopped at a fast food place...then went to a motel. I was young, so was she (but both of age).
Yeah, I did the bar thing...kind of.
I was working at a major NYC tourist attraction, it was 1989 and on my break I stopped in a bar at this attraction. A young woman I barely knew was in there having a drink. We exchanged hellos and got to talking; I had to get back to work (I was a parking lot attendant) and told her so. Near the end of my shift, she came out to the parking lot and met me. We stopped at a fast food place...then went to a motel. I was young, so was she (but both of age).
Bars and clubs might be overrated for the average male. Spending all that money to get in (cover charges are usually higher for men at clubs), maybe to buy women drinks in the hope that they might give those men the time of day, only to go home empty handed?
And then people wonder why some men might see the appeal in just dealing with escorts. Smh.
In popular culture you always see men score at bars or in clubs, but how many men actually manage this? Are we talking about a small portion or is this actually a common thing?
Well I know in gay bars it can be quite common. I've probably gone home with a few dozen people from bars over the years (in my 20's). My husband and I actually met drunk at a bar, were hooking up less than an hour after we met. NEVER thought I'd be saying that. Started dating instantly though and have been together going on six years now. Never been happier.
I assume it happens in straight bars, but maybe not as much as in gay bars. The stigma isn't there for guys like it is for girls.
I had a roommate that i'd imagine in the year and a half we stayed together I knew of around 30 women he had sex with coming home from the bar. About 5 of them he brought back to the apartment. He was a good looking guy. Skinny. and love him but a drunk. There was a couple times I literally picked him up off the floor from passing out. He was very outgoing, had a lot of friends, obviously very much made the women feel good. I think the last point is probably more important than anything else. He would be very forthcoming with his intentions as well. for example after a couple drinks and laughing with them and all he'd just suggest we come back to the place and F__K <exploitive deleted.
I guess the mystery is, how can a man always make a woman feel good?
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