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I never got this before. There's nothing better in the world than women, or being in a relationship with one. Then you're in a relationship that you think is going better and better every day, and it ends incredibly suddenly because "it's been incredible but it just doesn't feel like forever." No fight, nothing really. Just like that.
1) How could I have been so completely wrong? It really shakes your faith in your judgment.
2) Is anything worth that amount of pain?
Firstly being considerate and devoted to your partner is not " pathetic " it's the complete opposite infact, a lot of men could learn from you mate .
And for what it's worth ( from the outside looking in of course ) I think she was taking you for granted because of your deep love for her basically taking your kindness for your weakness, I'm truly sorry that this has happened to you mate I really am you seem such a lovely bloke and I'm absolutely certain that A LOT of women would give their right arm for someone that is as caring, kind and loving as you clearly are
Me myself I'm actually quite similar to your friend ( not so sure about the very good looking part though ) I can quite easily " hook up " with a lady I meet on a night out and feel nothing, however I'm quite outgoing so I do have many chances to meet people and I'd say there is usually one every so often than I may develop feelings for. I am though a very considerate and caring person and my good nature/sense of humour is what attracts .
I do at times feel empty at times but not enough to warrant an exclusive relationship ( just yet ).
All that said I honestly feel you are in a much better place than your friend ( and me LOL ) simply because you have the most important things that women want in a GOOD man and I'm certain you will move on very soon mate.
Thanks very much for the kind words! My friend said the same thing several times actually while I was seeing this girl- something to the effect of if you're too nice, she's not going to take you seriously. Doesn't matter, I wouldn't change a thing, even if that contributed to the end in some way. And it's not as slavishly mushy as I may have made it sound- not in the vein of worship, just things like bringing a drink she likes with me to her place, ordering something gluten-free so she can try it when we go out to dinner. Anyhoo. Maybe I'll go with my buddy as his wingman for a bit.
Don't beat yourself up about it, OP. I'm guessing most of us experience this kind of thing at some point in our lives.
I feel for you. Sometimes there are unspoken wants and expectations that make one feel as though the relationship isn't "forever." The hardest part of relationships is working on communication. Somebody has to be the adult and start the difficult conversations. If you are both invested it will be productive. If not, it wasn't meant to be.
But then when you get a dog after about 10 years the dog starts to decline and will die, so it's not like that's an easy, pain-free option, either.
Oh darn it!!! You can't win I guess...
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) I can quite easily " hook up " with a lady I meet on a night out and feel nothing, however I'm quite outgoing so I do have many chances to meet people and I'd say there is usually one every so often than I may develop feelings for. I am though a very considerate and caring person and my good nature/sense of humour is what attracts 
