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It's just pure facts in terms of social engagement. People don't realize that while we applaud the progress women have made in terms of equality, education, and independence, men have been following tradition since the dawn of day. Men haven't had to try to win over their independence, fight inequality, or rights to be the bread winners. Men have always been called upon to be the providers of their women and children. Now, the tables have turned in a sense.
In today's climate- women are totally ok with mult-dating (traditionally a man's game). Women now have foregone their early courtship in pursuit of their careers. But having reached their 30s, many are starting to feel the grind and want to settle down. However, men have retained their traditional thoughts of courtship presented by their parents and society. These career women on the other hand haven't had any experience dealing with men and now lack the ability identify various social cues.
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Originally Posted by halfamazing
They don't know what a man really wants- as oppose to a man that is going off traditional ways. Women are now totally ok with multi-dating and will straight up tell you in your face like "blah, I am multi-dating 5 dudes my G"... But, they are surprised to find that the man doesn't agree with his potential woman seeing other men.
What is the point of this thread? You don't seem to have a question. You seem to just want to spew out your opinion and dismiss any opposing opinions out of hand. There's a blog feature for that.
It's just pure facts in terms of social engagement. People don't realize that while we applaud the progress women have made in terms of equality, education, and independence, men have been following tradition since the dawn of day. Men haven't had to try to win over their independence, fight inequality, or rights to be the bread winners. Men have always been called upon to be the providers of their women and children. Now, the tables have turned in a sense.
In today's climate- women are totally ok with mult-dating (traditionally a man's game). Women now have foregone their early courtship in pursuit of their careers. But having reached their 30s, many are starting to feel the grind and want to settle down. However, men have retained their traditional thoughts of courtship presented by their parents and society. These career women on the other hand haven't had any experience dealing with men and now lack the ability identify various social cues. They don't know what a man really wants- as oppose to a man that is going off traditional ways. Women are now totally ok with multi-dating and will straight up tell you in your face like "blah, I am multi-dating 5 dudes my G"... But, they are surprised to find that the man doesn't agree with his potential woman seeing other men.
Dating several people at once used to be the norm. Boys and girls in high school and college would go out with different people until one really caught their attention, at which time they would "go steady." A girl would wear the boy's jacket, class ring, or class pin to show she was taken. This was very, very common back in the 50s, that golden era that so many young men today yearn for, as well as the 60s. Watch Happy Days. Watch Laverne and Shirley. Watch the Brady Bunch. Watch any older show about a family with kids in high school or young single people. People are either causally dating or they are engaged. There is always somebody new on Friday night, some new boy asking someone to the dance. It is only in recent times, like GenX onward, that young people started instantly pinning themselves to one another. My 11-year-old refers to the girl who used to play with him at recess as his "ex," for Pete's sake. Heck, in the opening scene of Gone With the Wind, Scarlett O'Hara is sitting on the porch, surrounded by young men vying for her attention.
My husband was one of three guys I casually dated at once. My mother dated different guys in high school. It was very, very normal to do this. The whole reason for getting "engaged" (think about the word, meaning "in use" or "taken") is to take oneself out of the dating world and plan for marriage. Same thing with "betrothed," meaning "promised to." Today's expectations of immediate exclusivity are jumping the gun.
As a career woman, who married in her mid-thirties, I have no idea what you are talking about.
I dated a lot when I was working, and men still wanted to get married in their 20s/30s.
I swear, I don't know where you guys get this stuff. I find it odd, I would never post telling men stuff like this, that would be weird. I'm not a guy.
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Men havent had to fight for "equality" your right, instead we are too busy fighting for our jobs and to provide for families as we keep getting laid off for outsourcing or trying to be able to afford anything with stagnant wages, especially for those coming out of college
I can't personally say what things are like in DC, but I have a friend that lives there that does amazingly well with career-oriented women.
He's tall, good-looking, and has his PhD. He also has a 6 figure job. He's currently engaged and is also sleeping with multiple women on the side. He does very well with those women (however, I will note that the women he dates and sleeps with are never good-looking....he's not known for his standards lol).
This is your definition of doing well? Having a fiance and cheating on her?
It's just pure facts in terms of social engagement. People don't realize that while we applaud the progress women have made in terms of equality, education, and independence, men have been following tradition since the dawn of day. Men haven't had to try to win over their independence, fight inequality, or rights to be the bread winners. Men have always been called upon to be the providers of their women and children. Now, the tables have turned in a sense.
In today's climate- women are totally ok with mult-dating (traditionally a man's game). Women now have foregone their early courtship in pursuit of their careers. But having reached their 30s, many are starting to feel the grind and want to settle down. However, men have retained their traditional thoughts of courtship presented by their parents and society. These career women on the other hand haven't had any experience dealing with men and now lack the ability identify various social cues. They don't know what a man really wants- as oppose to a man that is going off traditional ways. Women are now totally ok with multi-dating and will straight up tell you in your face like "blah, I am multi-dating 5 dudes my G"... But, they are surprised to find that the man doesn't agree with his potential woman seeing other men.
Is this a rant disguised as sociological analysis?
OP, there are lots of women who don't multi-date. There are women who don't date at all, because so many men (like you, apparently) flock around the ones all the other guys are flocking around. You have choices. Exercise them.
As a career woman, who married in her mid-thirties, I have no idea what you are talking about.
I dated a lot when I was working, and men still wanted to get married in their 20s/30s.
I swear, I don't know where you guys get this stuff. I find it odd, I would never post telling men stuff like this, that would be weird. I'm not a guy.
It's simple. Translation of his OP: He's been trying to date hotties, and is miffed that they're not exclusive with him, so he's whining on C-D.
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