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I'm not sure if men do exactly the same thing, but hmm, then again... maybe.
I just think it's illogical for a woman to totally write off a shy male if she herself is a shy person, especially if he at least takes the time to try to talk to her.
I'm talking about women who basically write guys off JUST because they lack confidence or are a bit shy and not for any other reason.
Why would you want to be around a woman like that? I've had women right me off because I wouldn't talk to them. I didn't care because I wasn't interested. Forget these women and find women who like you.
Lol, you didn't hear me the first time. Women don't approach relationships from a logical standpoint. They're not concerned about being fair, consistent, right. A woman responds to you based on how you make her feel.
Women may or may not give a shy guy a look, but if she does or doesn't, she does so based on her emotions and not because she is trying to be logical.
I personally wouldn't care much for a women who easily writes off people anyways.....
You cannot control what other people do... so I wouldn't spend too much energy being concerned about them.
And that's the crux of it, right there.
Who are these women who aren't "showing compassion" to shy men?
Moreover, why should these shy men be showed "compassion." They don't have a terminal illness; they are just shy.
And how would you like this compassion to be shown? Should I carry a Hallmark card around in case I encounter a shy man? This doesn't make sense.
I've been on this Earth nearly 42 years and I've yet to see anyone point and laugh at someone over being shy. In fact, I've yet to see a woman dismiss a man out of hand just because he's shy.
Why do men insist on continuing to start threads just to bash women when they know that men do the same thing that they have started the thread about.
Move on already, understand and accept that anything and everything men and women do the exact same thing, it is part of life, deal with it.
I'm pretty sure that there isn't an answer that will help the OP much, or whether he really wants an answer or just wants to vent. His motive may be to bash women. However, some characteristics will have more impact on men than women, and other characteristics will have more impact on women than men. I think it balances out across the population, but if you have a trait that is thought unattractive for your sex, it's frustrating. Are you denying that?
Who are these women who aren't "showing compassion" to shy men?
Moreover, why should these shy men be showed "compassion." They don't have a terminal illness; they are just shy.
And how would you like this compassion to be shown? Should I carry a Hallmark card around in case I encounter a shy man? This doesn't make sense.
I've been on this Earth nearly 42 years and I've yet to see anyone point and laugh at someone over being shy. In fact, I've yet to see a woman dismiss a man out of hand just because he's shy.
I agree with this. If a woman rejects a man, it's usually for a reason other than he was shy.
I'm pretty sure that there isn't an answer that will help the OP much, or whether he really wants an answer or just wants to vent. His motive may be to bash women. However, some characteristics will have more impact on men than women, and other characteristics will have more impact on women than men. I think it balances out across the population, but if you have a trait that is thought unattractive for your sex, it's frustrating. Are you denying that?
Anything will have a different impact on each individual.
Where do you get that I am denying anything?
I thought I made a clear statement, both genders do the same thing, how one reacts to whatever is as individual as each human.
The thing about shy people... They seem like they don't want to be bothered by other people and could come across as cold. I say this because I'm sort of like this. I have a social streak one day and then I'm quiet the next.
Who are these women who aren't "showing compassion" to shy men?
Moreover, why should these shy men be showed "compassion." They don't have a terminal illness; they are just shy.
And how would you like this compassion to be shown? Should I carry a Hallmark card around in case I encounter a shy man? This doesn't make sense.
I've been on this Earth nearly 42 years and I've yet to see anyone point and laugh at someone over being shy. In fact, I've yet to see a woman dismiss a man out of hand just because he's shy.
OK, I'll bite. Are you a shy man? I am, and I've experienced both of those things. I'm 58 years old and I still blush, all the god damned time, and it ceased being cute in 1974. Adult women seem to find my blushing quite humorous, which of course induces more blushing. And so it goes.
I don't find men's attitude toward shy me to be all that helpful either, but then I don't want to **** men, so the consequences for me are different with them.
Having said that, I don't get what exactly the OP is getting at either. Being shy is like any other social disadvantage, the responsibility of the person possessing the disadvantage to change it or to accept it if change isn't possible or desired.
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