Why don't more women have compassion on shy men (casual, narcissistic, good looking)
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1. I'm fairly certain I was attracted to her, considering I ended up dating her longer than anyone in quite sometime.
2. No one would've caught my attention. Like I said, I only overheard the conversation because of the setting and was aware that she was a woman based on her voice, but I never looked up to see what she looked like. I would've never known it was her until she said something later on. My ears don't prick up, and I don't start salivating like a dog anytime I hear or see a woman in public with a pulse.
Nice deflection, though. She's the one that noticed me
But you said in your first post that you didn't even notice her, and you just said you never even looked up. Sure, it's fine to approach someone you think is attractive, but very few people, man or woman, are going to just walk up to someone who's got their nose buried in their phone and who hasn't even given them a smile or any other kind of encouragement and interrupt them. (Except for Ascension/Question15, who feels as though it's his right--nay, duty--to bother women he thinks are attractive.)
That's where shy (or oblivious) guys are shooting themselves in the foot--if you don't look like you're open for business, don't be surprised when you get no customers.
Last edited by fleetiebelle; 11-16-2015 at 01:46 PM..
Nope. I do not believe in approaching/pursuing/chasing men. If you had been attracted to her you would have approached her. But you obviously weren't really into her because she didn't catch your attention at the meal plan place and you only dated a few times after hooking up via Tinder.
And then some women wonder why no one is interested in them.
It's 2015, women CAN approach a guy she's into if she wants.
With all the equal rights we have, no excuse for a woman not to pursue a guy if she wants to.
And then some women wonder why no one is interested in them.
It's 2015, women CAN approach a guy she's into if she wants.
With all the equal rights we have, no excuse for a woman not to pursue a guy if she wants to.
Just because someone CAN do something doesn't mean that they WANT to do something. She is free to wait for a man to approach her. If that is her preference - then that's her preference. Equal rights doesn't mean anything in the dating world because there are no rights in dating. We all date the people that we want to date. We aren't forced into doing anything. So, if she is a traditional woman that prefers a traditional man that will take the lead - that is her choice. Now, if she ends up alone for the rest of her life because of her choices - then that's on her. But she doesn't HAVE to do anything she doesn't want to do.
But you said in your first post that you didn't even notice her, and you just said you never even looked up. Sure, it's fine to approach someone you think is attractive, but very few people, man or woman, are going to just walk up to someone who's got their nose buried in their phone and who hasn't even given them a smile or any other kind of encouragement and interrupt them. (Except for Ascension/Question15, who feels as though it's his right--nay, duty--to bother women he thinks are attractive.)
That's where shy (or oblivious) guys are shooting themselves in the foot--if you don't look like you're open for business, don't be surprised when you get no customers.
That's why I prefaced this by saying this may not be the appropriate topic, but it was based on recent responses in this thread.
I couldn't care less if I look approachable, but I'm not complaining about women giving me attention or approaching me.
I'm talking about the downright refusal of some women to speak to someone, especially in this instance where A) she recognized me and B) she went on to tell her friends about me.
And when I asked her why she didn't say anything, she had no response. I couldn't imagine a situation in which I saw someone I thought was so attractive and said/did nothing, then go tell my friends about it. "Okay, so did you talk to him/her? "
I just get the feeling that if the roles were reversed, folk wouldn't be so understanding.
That's why I prefaced this by saying this may not be the appropriate topic, but it was based on recent responses in this thread.
I couldn't care less if I look approachable, but I'm not complaining about women giving me attention or approaching me.
I'm talking about the downright refusal of some women to speak to someone, especially in this instance where A) she recognized me and B) she went on to tell her friends about me.
And when I asked her why she didn't say anything, she had no response. I couldn't imagine a situation in which I saw someone I thought was so attractive and said/did nothing, then go tell my friends about it. "Okay, so did you talk to him/her? "
I just get the feeling that if the roles were reversed, folk wouldn't be so understanding.
Understanding about what? She wasn't complaining - was she? What's there to understand?
It seems like this made you angry with her but you said that you were laughing about it. I'm a big confused.
Understanding about what? She wasn't complaining - was she? What's there to understand?
It seems like this made you angry with her but you said that you were laughing about it. I'm a big confused.
Lol. What is there to get angry over? She brought the interaction at MMG up, so I asked her a fair question. After that, it was over with. The end?
If a guy tells his friends he saw this hot girl at MMG and they ask if he said anything, and he didn't, he's going to get a lot of flack.
If a gal tells her friends she saw this hot guy at MMG and they ask if she said anything to him, and she didn't, she won't get as much crap as the guy would.
More understanding if the girl doesn't say anything, compared to the guy.
1. I'm fairly certain I was attracted to her, considering I ended up dating her longer than anyone in quite sometime.
2. No one would've caught my attention. Like I said, I only overheard the conversation because of the setting and was aware that she was a woman based on her voice, but I never looked up to see what she looked like. I would've never known it was her until she said something later on. My ears don't prick up, and I don't start salivating like a dog anytime I hear or see a woman in public with a pulse.
Nice deflection, though. She's the one that noticed me
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Originally Posted by timberline742
If you think dudes are going to randomly walk up to a random stranger just because she's cuter than average, you have another thing coming. Cute women are a dime a dozen, I'm not, and I don't know any decent, non skeezy dude that is just going to try to hit on them because they have nice hair or a nice figure or something. That's some low class stuff right there.
But then why are you guys asking WOMEN to do that very same thing that you are saying that you don't do?
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Originally Posted by NewYorker11356
And then some women wonder why no one is interested in them.
It's 2015, women CAN approach a guy she's into if she wants.
With all the equal rights we have, no excuse for a woman not to pursue a guy if she wants to.
But then why are you guys asking WOMEN to do that very same thing that you are saying that you don't do?
Lawd, you still don't get it, do you?
As far as what you're highlighting in my posts, no, I don't try to hit on or approach any women over the age of 18. The point you're trying to make and the woman in my post are not even close to the same thing.
Oh, you conveniently missed in the first post when I told the story, that if I realized it was her, I would've said something.
Lol. What is there to get angry over? She brought the interaction at MMG up, so I asked her a fair question. After that, it was over with. The end?
If a guy tells his friends he saw this hot girl at MMG and they ask if he said anything, and he didn't, he's going to get a lot of flack.
If a gal tells her friends she saw this hot guy at MMG and they ask if she said anything to him, and she didn't, she won't get as much crap as the guy would.
More understanding if the girl doesn't say anything, compared to the guy.
Maybe she did not feel that you were approachable in THAT situation. Maybe you gave off an unfriendly vibe so she hesitated. Maybe she "thought" that you looked familiar but was not quite sure. Maybe the fact that you didn't even look up was off putting to her.
No offense but you come across (in your posts) as being a bit harsh and judgmental.
If you think dudes are going to randomly walk up to a random stranger just because she's cuter than average, you have another thing coming. Cute women are a dime a dozen, I'm not, and I don't know any decent, non skeezy dude that is just going to try to hit on them because they have nice hair or a nice figure or something. That's some low class stuff right there.
I am all for individuality but men are alive and kicking. Not knocking you but this is what someone who has been locked up in a closet would say.
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