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My dealbreaker is ultimately showing of affection and being intimate emotionally and physically. If there is no display of the simple things like touching, kissing, sexual activity in addition to emotional intimacy than there is nothing there.
However; they have taught me many wonderful life lessons, and despite their struggles in their personal relationship, I couldn't ask for much better in terms of the ways my parents have worked with me. Overall, I feel blessed to call them my parents.
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Struggles in their relationship? What do you mean by this? This may have something to do with your current situation.
Oh, good grief. If that chicken-voiced, rheumy-eyed, generalization-spewing, ignorant pencil-neck is supposed to be masculine, I'm hanging it up and joining a convent.
Sorry, Cavs, but my advice is to reconsider marrying this woman. You haven't been through the daily grind together in any real way yet, and getting through the daily grind together is a huge part of marriage.
Oh, good grief. If that chicken-voiced, rheumy-eyed, generalization-spewing, ignorant pencil-neck is supposed to be masculine, I'm hanging it up and joining a convent.
Did you catch that part, at :48, where he says, "...ever since I got into pick-up..."?
I would say, major things would be the way in which the relational dynamic functions. My dad is truly one of the most compassionate and generous people I have ever met. However, he can be very domineering, not in an abusive way, but in a way where he takes charge of most decisions and things that happen, pretty much always. I admittedly think that while I've been taught many wonderful things and personality characteristics (or so I'd like to think), I'd also say that is part of the reason why I'm a little bit more passive (though I'd say a large part of it also has had to do with always sort of having a beta personality within school and other environments with peers). My fiance even commented about it this weekend when we were laying on the couch and my arm was starting to fall asleep because she had been resting, and when I said that, I still wasn't assertive enough to tell her that I needed to move her. She commented on that, and said it was kind of a small image of what I can be like, and that I have even just recently (in the past few months) started to become more of an assertive personality.
JJ: That's a good point. I'm certainly worried.
WMSN: You are right on both accounts.
The one thing that is starting to push me more and more in the other direction, has been my attitude about the marriage over the recent period of time. I would say that I was way more excited about the relationship in the first 8 months, than I have been at any point since then. Now I know some part of that is the natural intimacy and excitement which occurs when starting a new relationship (especially a first one), but I can even say that for a good portion of our engagement, I have ultimately looked forward to the point when I would be married. I honestly can't really say that right now. I can certainly say that I have strong doubts about not doing so, because of her many wonderful qualities, how close we are, and how much I care about her. But, I can also say that I have more trepidation about the wedding than anticipation.
I also have thought recently about whether I really want to be married, have kids, etc., and honestly, I really don't know. I think that everyone in society seems to have it in their mind that it's just "the way you go" or "a thing you do", and it's almost like it's an expectation for everyone, and those who do not do so are shamed. But quite frankly, I think we need more people to be single by choice. I think marriage isn't for everyone, and while it may be for me, I know that if I right now was single, I wouldn't be trying to get married/have kids. Now, perhaps if I were to do something like this, I would regret it forever. But, I think that could really be said either way..
I have relatives who are not married in their 60s, absolutely the right decision for them. They do/did have significant others, but not married because they don't want children or don't care for children. You still have lots of time. I wouldn't worry at your age. I have one kid who is 25, older than you, and is not in a hurry at all.
But those in my family who got married, stay married.
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