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Sounds like your wife has given up a lot for your relationship. Moving away from her friends & family couldn't have been easy especially given how far away you are. You have 2-3 years to plan this move. I think it is your turn to compromise especially if there are safety issues with your current location!
She's been robbed at gunpoint TWICE. How does any "upside" that life has there trump that?
But you can do it. It's not impossible- didn't you say that in a prior post?
I have a suggestion. Just let her read this thread. Chances are the "decision" would be taken right out of your hands.
You're right, it IS possible. What I worry about- What if one day we want/have to go back? I wouldn't get a job, or if my current comoany takes me back i would start from the most junior position again. She on the other hand works selfemployed, so she can live anywhere.
You're right, it IS possible. What I worry about- What if one day we want/have to go back? I wouldn't get a job, or if my current comoany takes me back i would start from the most junior position again. She on the other hand works selfemployed, so she can live anywhere.
Sure, she can conduct her business from anywhere. That doesn't mean that she should have to live in a place that's not safe, does it?
Yup, you can live thinking about "what ifs". "What if" the next time she gets robbed, she gets hurt or killed?
I need your advice. My wife (28) and I (32) have been married for a few months, been together for almost four years. We started out as long distance, and she moved to my country when she finished her degree in the country she studied in. I appreciate that she did this for me and I know it must be hard for her to have her family and friends so far away. It hasn't been easy all the time, but we're going strong. She's from Europe and she moved to my Latin American country, which of course was a huge change, not just security wise. She hs been living here with me over three years now, and more recently she has been asking if we can move somewhere else. She says she isn't very happy here, that it is really hard to find friends, and that the security issue is huge (she got robbed at gunpoint twice), she doesn't feel free. I understand her, but the job I'm working in makes it really hard for me to just quit and move somewhere else. It would be pretty hard to get a mew job in the same field. My wife says we don't have to move now, but that she hopes this could be the plan for in 2-3 years at least. She says it doesn't have to be her country, but any country in Europe. I just don't know what to do. I understand her concerns, but as much as I'd love to live in Europe I don't know if I can.
What would you guys do? Thanks.
Oh heck to the no.
There isn't any question of what to do.
Your wife is much more understanding than I. She is giving you 2 - 3 years after being robbed at gunpoint twice! I would want to move immediately.
You sound selfish. You are only concerned with yourself.
Choosing to live in an unsafe, unstable place for the career opportunities is the move of a single person...not the one of a person with a family to consider.
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