"i didn't feel any chemistry" meaning? (dates, girlfriends, women)

[billyelevate]

The last 3 dates on, I thought have went great! Laughing talking it seemed to go well. Yes, there were a few awkward silence moments but that happens!

One of the girls I kissed the other 2 were hugs. No sexual contact. I was trying to be respectful. i'm looking for a relationshp not sex

Anyway each girls has told me "it was fun, i had a goo time but i felt no chemistry"

what the hell does that mean?

should i have been more agressive?

I mean they were laughing, smiling , said they had a good time

so what is the "i didn't feel any chemistry" meaning

if i had tried to make out with them does that mean there would have been chemistry?

[Basiliximab]

No, chemistry is something you either you have or do not have with someone and you can't make happen. (at least this is how I understand it, there may be different views on this). Personally, I feel there is not much you can do to adjust this; the best advice I can come up with is just be yourself, really. Eventually, you should come into contact with someone you just click with. I'm not sure of a better way to describe it. You've never had someone you talked with where things were just different? where you felt more comfortable and able to just be yourself around? Maybe some people haven't.

I know for me, I can immediately (for the most part) tell if I meet someone I have chemistry with. To me it means I just feel incredibly comfortable around them and can totally be myself around them. Maybe I feel it so intensely because I'm awkward around a lot of people, so when I meet someone I'm not that way around I can notice it real well, I don't know. So far, there's only been two people I've met like this (a relationship of 10 yrs that ended well and my current fiancé; I'd also separate romantic chemistry from friendship chemistry too; you can have chemistry with a friend but not be attracted to them in a romantic way. I've met lots more guys I had chemistry with to some extent, but I wasn't attracted to them romantically at all). Sorry if I haven't been much help, maybe someone else on here can give you better advice or a better description of it.

[Pitt Chick]

Originally Posted by Basiliximab

No, chemistry is something you either you have or do not have with someone and you can't make happen.

I agree.

OP, while they had a good time, that 'spark' was missing.
You being aggressive would not change that.
Trying to make out with them definitely would not change that.

You just have to date more, until you find the right one!

[BirdieBelle]

Being "more aggressive" certainly wouldn't have helped.

It just means they don't feel any different about you than they do for a friend. It's possible to laugh and have fun with friends, but you don't have that romantic spark with them.

[49ersfan27]

The person doesn't like you.

[YAZ]

You'll know there's chemistry when.....


* You listen to every word she sez without thinking about the next thing to say.


* Those moments of silence are actually comfortable.


* She sees a friend of hers while you're together and is genuinely excited to introduce you.


* She asks about your family.


* Last but not least, you kiss her and you get that tingling sensation in your groin.....she feels it too....and doesn't back away.

[D217]

"No chemistry" is just nature's way of saying she doesn't want to have your babies

[YAZ]

Originally Posted by 49ersfan27

The person doesn't like you.

She could like the guy, but just not in a sexual way. Very important to recognize this, as these gals have girlfriends that are available.


Networking 101.

[erjunkee]

OP, I wouldn't lose heart over this.

IF you were a woman, I'm sure some other women on here would be saying "youre too good for them," etc. Men don't get that type of pseudo social feedback/reassurance from anyone, and so you tend to really question yourself when these situations arise.

"Chemistry" is something that can never, ever be forced. So please abandon this idea or any notion that being "more aggressive," will make this happen. The only thing it will do is cause a restraining order to be taken out against you.

However, it is something that can develop over time with some people and with certain situations. It all truly depends.

It is, at baseline, a connection...a "click," if you will, that's felt on behalf of both people in the situation. For some, it's a physical connection, for others, it's an emotional connection..and sometimes, it's a combination of both. What determines this truly is dependent upon a million factors that are unique/specific to the man/woman involved.

All this is to say that you should keep looking for the right woman for you. I'd say just about everyone of us has been through this situation. While it's unpleasant, it's a learning situation. Let those ladies go, and keep it movin'.

I wish you all the best!

[Pitt Chick]

Originally Posted by 49ersfan27

The person doesn't like you.

So not true!