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oh, i've always said i wanted 12 children...after watching cheaper by the dozen as a kid. i was like, i'm having 12 children for sure.
as it stands, i'm 26 and at 0. i need to get to work.
i will compromise in that she'll have 6, and then we can adopt the other 6. it's actually a deal breaker..if she won't have 6 children by me. i mean, i've already compromised..i wanted 12! no, i haven't changed my mind about that..
You say it's a dealbreaker for YOU....but it's a dealbreaker for 99.99% of women (adoption doesn't help much!)...be prepared to die alone...sorry!
No. I knew as early as my late teen's that I didn't want kids, and this has only strengthened over the last thirty years. The downside is that finding women who also feel the same has been extremely difficult (including breaking up with someone who changed their mind), but no regrets at all.
I should have asked this in the original post, but, for those that do not want them...why not?
For me, it's been more of a 'feeling'...just 'knowing' I've never felt "cut out for motherhood". I'm not a nurturing person. And I just 'can't see it happening'. Like I stated in my original post I just have never been the type of woman who felt compelled to have children.
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I should have asked this in the original post, but, for those that do not want them...why not?
For me, it's been more of a 'feeling'...just 'knowing' I've never felt "cut out for motherhood". I'm not a nurturing person. And I just 'can't see it happening'. Like I stated in my original post I just have never been the type of woman who felt compelled to have children.
Why I don't want them; I just straight up don't like kids.
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I think if you're on the fence leaning towards no and you're not a very nurturing person, then it is better to not have any. What if you have one and find out your nurturing gene really IS missing and you end up resenting that child? Even if you try to fake it and be a good mother anyway, the child will still be able to sense that you don't really want them. I really don't see any point in even meeting someone if one person really wants kids and the other doesn't.
As a man, I always thought I'd eventually have kids. However, my life took a turn for the worst and now its not going to happen. As long as you don't think you'll have strong regrets (like I do), you'll probably be fine with the decision not to. Usually around 30 is when women start thinking about it, so if it hasn't bothered you these past few years, you'll probably be fine with the decision.
I should have asked this in the original post, but, for those that do not want them...why not?
For me, it's been more of a 'feeling'...just 'knowing' I've never felt "cut out for motherhood". I'm not a nurturing person. And I just 'can't see it happening'. Like I stated in my original post I just have never been the type of woman who felt compelled to have children.
I just don't want to be a dad.
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