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Yes, and I always have my age preferences visible. I don't message women who have their preferences under 40, so why should I respond to women who can see I still want kids (if they read my profile) and am looking for women 30-42ish?
This is a strange personal quirk of mine, so take it with a grain of salt, but the reason that I reply to women that I'm not interested in is to prevent them from being discouraged at messaging other men. Sending a message at all puts them ahead of 97 or whatever percent of all the other women out there that hide behind the outdated guise of "the man should message/approach", and I want to encourage it, even when most of them come in the form of "hey" or "hi".
This is a strange personal quirk of mine, so take it with a grain of salt, but the reason that I reply to women that I'm not interested in is to prevent them from being discouraged at messaging other men. Sending a message at all puts them ahead of 97 or whatever percent of all the other women out there that hide behind the outdated guise of "the man should message/approach", and I want to encourage it, even when most of them come in the form of "hey" or "hi".
Good point, and it is true they usually put zero thought into it. Maybe I'll start responding and reiterating my preferences.
Good point, and it is true they usually put zero thought into it. Maybe I'll start responding and reiterating my preferences.
If you're going to respond, don't do the underlined. That defeats the purpose. If you're doing to respond, say something nice, or at the very least, polite. Don't bother responding with something negative or rude; we don't need more of THAT out there.
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If you're going to respond, don't do the underlined. That defeats the purpose. If you're doing to respond, say something nice, or at the very least, polite. Don't bother responding with something negative or rude; we don't need more of THAT out there.
I just thank people for writing and say I don't think we're a good match, and wish them luck in their search. It can't hurt.
I just thank people for writing and say I don't think we're a good match, and wish them luck in their search. It can't hurt.
Good point. I think some feedback might be nice. I sort of equate it to job hunting as I've been floating my resume out there and not getting feedback at all sucks, at least let me know something either way. I got a no back in literally a day, it sucks, but at least I knew where I stood with that company.
I've never tried OLD and don't know the protocols, but I think a quickie "thanks, but no thanks" type of message couldn't hurt and if for the very reasons someone earlier said, providing some positive feedback to encourage the ladies to do a bit more of the reaching out.
I'm an old school guy, but if the world around you is changing, it ought to be a changin for the ladies too, if you follow what I mean.
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