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He has absolutely no interest in me at all. I used to take it personally but his ex wife said he had no interest in her at all either, only when they first started dating....same thing with me. I've tried everything from telling him how I feel, to changing things up, to suggesting he talk to the Dr (he can barely get or stay hard anymore)....nothing. He doesn't want [Mod cut.] and doesn't even want massages or anything intimate. He doesn't even make any effort to make me happy. I tell him how I feel and he just doesn't care. I know part of the problem now could be low testosterone but at least show me some affection to show he cares? I don't think he is cheating because he doesn't seem to care he is overweight and he is always home except for work. I don't think he is gay....one thing I have noticed is how whenever there is anything on tv, or any subject that comes up about men with much younger woman (like teenagers) he always goes on and on about how disgusted he is....how wrong it is....it's almost like he is denying something. It's just odd. He also always seems to like to talk to my friends teenage daughters... not flirtatious or anything but asking them about school etc...and he never ask any adults about themselves, he only talks about himself. It could be the estranged relationship he has with his daughter that causes this behavior but I don't know.
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I am assuming you are recently married. I first wonder why you married him. I assume it wasn't because he was a great lover or that was even one of the top 5 reasons. At this point, I doubt you'll change him. Drugs aren't going to help his mental state much. You also don't mention his age or weight, which can both be important factors in a man's potency. But whatever else the circumstances, I'll tell you what I tell the men who find themselves in this situation; A sexless marriage is perfectly legitimate reason for divorce, even among conservative Christian types.
But here, you mention you don't get excited from having sex with your husband and stay dry alot. //www.city-data.com/forum/healt...after-sex.html
This was just earlier this month. So I assume the no sex is a recent issue that's only last a few days to around a week or so?
So what's the issue? Is it that he won't have sex? or that he has sex and you don't care for it? Maybe your dryness is what's keeping him away. That can be uncomfortable for everyone.
He has absolutely no interest in me at all. I used to take it personally but his ex wife said he had no interest in her at all either, only when they first started dating....same thing with me. I've tried everything from telling him how I feel, to changing things up, to suggesting he talk to the Dr (he can barely get or stay hard anymore)....nothing. He doesn't want oral, and has never done it to me either....and doesn't even want massages or anything intimate. He doesn't even make any effort to make me happy. I tell him how I feel and he just doesn't care. I know part of the problem now could be low testosterone but at least show me some affection to show he cares? I don't think he is cheating because he doesn't seem to care he is overweight and he is always home except for work. I don't think he is gay....one thing I have noticed is how whenever there is anything on tv, or any subject that comes up about men with much younger woman (like teenagers) he always goes on and on about how disgusted he is....how wrong it is....it's almost like he is denying something. It's just odd. He also always seems to like to talk to my friends teenage daughters... not flirtatious or anything but asking them about school etc...and he never ask any adults about themselves, he only talks about himself. It could be the estranged relationship he has with his daughter that causes this behavior but I don't know.
Perhaps he is asexual?
Or maybe some problems with hormones? Has he been checked medically? If everything is still ok, he might be asexual.
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Maybe it's a good thing if he has zero interest since you have a bleeding problem, and in this post you mention having no interest in him either. Maybe his low drive is due to your lack of interest in him?
I've been married 5 years and it's been this way since we got marrked....dryness and bleeding was recent. We have sex maybe once a month after I beg....buts it I don't get excited because he isn't into it usually. He is 43 and about 75 lbs overweight. I try to get him active and drink less, eat healthier but he isn't interested.
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I've been married 5 years and it's been this way since we got marrked....dryness and bleeding was recent. We have sex maybe once a month after I beg....buts it I don't get excited because he isn't into it usually. He is 43 and about 75 lbs overweight. I try to get him active and drink less, eat healthier but he isn't interested.
You're changing the story. You said it had been like this except when you were first dating. So why did you marry him?
How recently did the 75 pounds and drinking happen? Unfortunately it sounds like you both have challenges to address together. I would absolutely not enjoy sex if she was dry, bleeding, and in pain. I would just avoid doing that anymore. Was it ever great between you? Have either of you had really good sex, so you know what it's like?
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