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Okay, I just need some cold water in my face I guess. Need your opinion. My boyfriend of over 3 years is very heavy on Instgram. He does' use any other social media (he has a Facebook account but rarely uses it), but he loves Instagram. He's always posting pictures (no selfies, but he likes photography so he always posts stuff he took pictures of, and once in a while a picture oh himself, like when he's doing something cool or so). Only twice in our entire relationship has he posted a picture of us together, and those two pictures didn't even show that we're a couple (in one we're just next to each other while diving, in the other one we're arm in arm with a couple of friends). This has always bothered me a bit, like he posts so many pictures and cannot even once post a nice couple pic of us? But I let this go, I said to myself it's just social media, who cares, doesn't matter.
Well, now we're coming to the problem. I'm also an Instagram user (FYI I post couple pics of us), and I always check out what the people I follow like on Instagram (this is how I find new accounts to follow and pics to like). This morning, I noticed that my boyfriend started following a girl from our city. The reason I was surprised is because 1. the only girls he starts following are his friends and this girl is not a friend of his which I know for a fact and 2. most accounts he starts following are not from private people but from hobby pages (football or animals). He isn't the guy who just starts following tons of accounts, he actually just follows very few ones. I checked that girls profile and as I said, she's from our city and quite pretty, posting both pictures she took from stuff (nature etc.) and pictures of herself. Those pictures aren't amazing (very amateur), so it's not like he started following her for the quality of her pictures. Call me control freak, but I got curious. My boyfriend only liked her most recent picture, a picture of a forest. He didn't like any other pictures of her I think. I checked if she already followed him, but she didn't. So it wasn't like he was just following her back. I checked his most recent pictures and she liked like 10 pictures of him, also one where he's in the picture.
I don't know, this really bothers me. I'm usually not a jealous girl, I wouldn't mind at all if my boyfriend spend alone time with a female friend of his (as long as I know her), and I don't mind he he watches porn. I wouldn't mind either if he followed some hot celebrity on Instagram. But starting to follow some pretty girl who lives in our city and who he does not know personally (which I know for a fact)? I just find that really weird, especially considering his usual Instagram habits. And I mean, I don't go around and start to follow random good-looking guys I don't know from our city on Insta. Am I just going nuts over this for no reason or am I right to feel weird about this? What do you think?
So if someone is dating, neither person in the relationship can interact with a member of the opposite sex on social media? Do both people need to un-friend all members of the opposite sex as well?
So if someone is dating, neither person in the relationship can interact with a member of the opposite sex on social media? Do both people need to un-friend all members of the opposite sex as well?
Did you even read my post? I already said that I don't mind the female friends of my boyfriend. In fact I wouldn't even mind if he told me he's going to the movies with one of his female friends. As long as I know about them (personally or at least through stories of him) I don't mind at all. He can talk to his female friends on Facebook all day long, he can like his female friends pictures on Instagram, I don't care. The thing that bothers me is that he starts following a girl he does not know in our city and starts liking her pictures.
Did you even read my post? I already said that I don't mind the female friends of my boyfriend. In fact I wouldn't even mind if he told me he's going to the movies with one of his female friends. As long as I know about them (personally or at least through stories of him) I don't mind at all. He can talk to his female friends on Facebook all day long, he can like his female friends pictures on Instagram, I don't care. The thing that bothers me is that he starts following a girl he does not know in our city and starts liking her pictures.
So you are more comfortable that he hangs out with people he knows but less comfortable just liking an account of someone he doesn't (which is much safer than hanging out with someone). Which one of these situations is potentially more dangerous?
It's not like he has an account that's secret. It may be work related. She may be a lead that can get him more business or exposure. I accept friend requests from people on my Facebook account who I barely know. It doesn't mean anything.
You are overthinking this and letting your mind race without any concrete evidence.
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