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Ever get this one? Doesn't it seem like a one-way conversation? One person sits back, the other person proceeds to entertain with facts and details.
For those who use this question, what do you like about the question? Is it a matter of style? Are there any feelings of putting the other person on the spot? If it's intentional, is it your intention to put the other person on the spot?
Too broad a question. They say that asking more specific questions is better, more effective at drawing people out. "Tell me about yourself" puts the person on the spot, can result in them floundering to find a topic to start with, and seems lazy on the part of the questioner. Anyone faced with a question like that should come back with, "What would you like to know?"
I don't like that question nor do I use it. If someone were to say, "So, tell me about yourself." I would respond with, "What do you want to know?"
It comes across an an interview question. I just prefer normal back and forth communication. That way, we can both get a chance to learn more about each other.
I agree. It reminds me of almost every job interview I have ever had. Sometimes I almost want to break into a review of my work history. And to me, if I get asked that sort of question, then I feel like there isn't going to be much conversational chemistry.
I'll respond with a couple of things and a question or two about them. If they don't respond in kind, I don't bother with them any more, and simply move on to someone who can handle a conversation.
That was not my M.O. I just asked whatever came to mind as the conversation flowed. I've been on the receiving end of this, and I usually responded asking what they wanted to know.
In the majority of cases, where there was mutual interest, they were just as open and comfortable sharing their story or parts of it.
I agree it's kinda lazy and puts someone on the spot.
I would just tell them some of the stuff I do in my free time, hobbies, etc.
Or "Welllll, next week is the Solstice, so you know, gotta climb to the top of the mountain and bleed a goat. It makes laundry difficult, but you gotta do what you gotta do. You?"
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I have always found that an awkward question. I mean where do I start? "Oh, it's an age-old tale of a simple girl born in suburbia, spreading her wings against the confines of her age and gender until fledgling adulthood and a career that entailed...Hey...hey." (JerZ pushes date's shoulder) "Are you awake?"
I mean HowTF much do they want to know, LOL.
I think I pretty much have always answered it with, "What do you want to know?" and a smile. Then the person comes up with something or other..."Well, what do you do for a living?" and voila, a jumping-off point.
I agree. It reminds me of almost every job interview I have ever had. Sometimes I almost want to break into a review of my work history. And to me, if I get asked that sort of question, then I feel like there isn't going to be much conversational chemistry.
Job interview questions on dates...one could REALLY have fun with this.
"Where do you see yourself in five years?"
* "Collecting alimony from you."
* "With your brother...OMG, look, not hatin' but it's easy to see who got the looks in the family...amiright?"
* "With a penis. FINALLY. Did you know insurance doesn't cover that? Only $20K more to go!"
* "Still not caught yet. Or, I hope not."
* "Raptured." (best if delivered with wide-eyed "I'm high"-face)
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