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Ok so growing up I was always best friends with this girl. She was extremely attractive and I was her dorky friend. But she never thought of me as that, when everybody else picked on me she was always there for me. We always talked about growing up and becoming doctors together and getting married and having kids. I mean from when we were 8 until we were 14 that's all we talked about. I never wanted to ask her out because I was never confident with myself. Over a few years I've lost 85 pounds, cleared up my acne, straightened my teeth and started working out(all of the things that were holding me back) and now I finally feel confident with myself. Back in sophomore year I moved to a different school and we lost touch, and I haven't talked to her since. We are now seniors and she has a boyfriend. Ive texted her 3 times within the past year and she hasn't gotten back to me. But I've talked to her friends and found out that ever since she got this boyfriend she hasn't talked to anyone and has basically gotten rid of all of her friends for this new guy. How do I get in touch with her? I don't care if she likes me the same way that I like her, but I just want my best friend back. Do I hope to just run into her one day? How do I get in touch with her? Any advice?
You sent her three texts she did not answer. The silence should be deafening.
If your confident that the number is accurate, you could call it. However, if the number is accurate and she is ignoring you then chances is she doesn't want to be contacted.
Most childhood crushes don't mature into adult "happy ever afters." You sound like you remade yourself, are confident, and ready to put yourself out there. The past wants to remain there so leave it there. Go out, and meet some new people. Look forward.
I've never understood why anyone would trade in a boyfriend/girlfriend for their friends... I value friendships very highly. My wife knew this going into our relationship knowing I was still friends with many "close" friends.
It is really her loss...
If you've already made attempts to contact her and she doesn't respond, there isn't much else you can do. If someday she comes around, be a good friend and forgive her.
How do I get in touch with her? I don't care if she likes me the same way that I like her, but I just want my best friend back. Do I hope to just run into her one day? How do I get in touch with her? Any advice?
Leave her alone. She's made it clear she doesn't want to talk to you.
Ok so growing up I was always best friends with this girl. She was extremely attractive and I was her dorky friend. But she never thought of me as that, when everybody else picked on me she was always there for me. We always talked about growing up and becoming doctors together and getting married and having kids. We are now seniors and she has a boyfriend. Ive texted her 3 times within the past year and she hasn't gotten back to me. But I've talked to her friends and found out that ever since she got this boyfriend she hasn't talked to anyone and has basically gotten rid of all of her friends for this new guy. How do I get in touch with her? I don't care if she likes me the same way that I like her, but I just want my best friend back. Do I hope to just run into her one day? How do I get in touch with her? Any advice?
The expression "you can't go home again" is a euphemism for "move on with your life and don't look back." You aren't in love, you are infatuated with her. Don't confuse childhood infatuation for love. She has a boyfriend. She is not responding to your texts. Maybe she has matured while you have not?
If she was still interested in you she would find you and rekindle the friendship you once had. Leave her alone and move on.
I mean from when we were 8 until we were 14 that's all we talked about.
Then you moved away, and she moved on.
She grew up, and you are still infatuated with that girl.
You don't even know the kind of person she grew up to be.
Let it go.
If she wants to talk to you, she has your number....
You have created an elaborate fantasy and now you need to wake up. You are not children anymore, and have grown up into different people. She has a boyfriend now and clearly has no interest in revisiting the past.
Don't make the mistake of dwelling in childhood where it's "safe." Go find someone who can appreciate the "new you" more than you do.
If you two were best buddies when you were teens and she did not jump you then, you are in the friend's zone........ and once in the friends zone, always in the friends' zone.
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