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That's true. Not everyone dates multiple people at the same time in online dating. I think the vast majority do, but there are plenty that don't. The two types that come to mind are people on the opposite ends of the spectrum. People who get a lot of attention and only will go on a date after a person has met their very strict and specific criteria. On the other end people who are really seeking, but are less desirable so when they finally score a date it's a big thing.
No, literally "all" of us don't know this - but anyone who is online dating and doesn't realize how it works within their first few days of creating a profile might not be ready for this format of dating.
Edit: I didn't mean for that to come off as snarky; it's just the way it works and I found out really quickly after coming in as a neophyte not that long ago.
No, literally "all" of us don't know this - but anyone who is online dating and doesn't realize how it works within their first few days of creating a profile might not be ready for this format of dating.
That's true. Not everyone dates multiple people at the same time in online dating. I think the vast majority do, but there are plenty that don't. The two types that come to mind are people on the opposite ends of the spectrum. People who get a lot of attention and only will go on a date after a person has met their very strict and specific criteria. On the other end people who are really seeking, but are less desirable so when they finally score a date it's a big thing.
Mate just out of pure curiosity.........
you seem to get quite a few dates ( judging by your previous threads ) can I ask do you meet them all online? Or do you meet some in bars/pubs for example?
The reason I ask is " ghosting " seems to be quite common for OLD ( I've never done it ), do you find that for example on a Saturday night you go out with the boys and meet a woman in a bar and arrange to go out on a date another time do you find that they " ghost " as much? I mean after you've actually met them in person and not online?
its always rude to ghost, but I guess it's more acceptable after the first couple of dates, as long as you haven't slept with the person. Ghosting on a person you had sex with--unless you both had an understanding it was a one time thing--is never acceptable.
you seem to get quite a few dates ( judging by your previous threads ) can I ask do you meet them all online? Or do you meet some in bars/pubs for example?
The reason I ask is " ghosting " seems to be quite common for OLD ( I've never done it ), do you find that for example on a Saturday night you go out with the boys and meet a woman in a bar and arrange to go out on a date another time do you find that they " ghost " as much? I mean after you've actually met them in person and not online?
All my recent dates have been from OLD. It's not ideal, but my schedule is too busy right now for much of anything else. That'll change by June when I don't have to work a ridiculous amount of hours
As for ghosting, the three times it's happened to me were fairly identical in how things went down. I met them through OKC, we agreed to meet up, had a first date (or meet) then I tried calling and/or texting them and...nothing.
I've never been ghosted by someone I met in person first. Also, if we count people who we've only talked to online who then disappear or stop responding then I've been ghosted much more than three times lol. Although I wouldn't count people you've never actually met. After all for all you know they all could just be robots trying to get your credit card info until you meet them
All my recent dates have been from OLD. It's not ideal, but my schedule is too busy right now for much of anything else. That'll change by June when I don't have to work a ridiculous amount of hours
As for ghosting, the three times it's happened to me were fairly identical in how things went down. I met them through OKC, we agreed to meet up, had a first date (or meet) then I tried calling and/or texting them and...nothing.
I've never been ghosted by someone I met in person first. Also, if we count people who we've only talked to online who then disappear or stop responding then I've been ghosted much more than three times lol. Although I wouldn't count people you've never actually met. After all for all you know they all could just be robots trying to get your credit card info until you meet them
"Ghosting" (for what I understood reading these posts) is basically going M.I.A (missing in action) on the other person without apparent motive: online, in person or social media.
No, its no cool but "ghosting" on OLD is kinda like the "silent treatment" woman (also men) don't want the confrontation.
Or just plain and simple don't wanna give a reason for their actions.
I think it's almost childish, but to each its own.
Like is there a dividing line from, "Sure it's okay to ghost them" then suddenly you hit the line and it's, "Yeah at that point you should tell them you no longer want to see them"?
If so when is it?
It's never unacceptable to ghost. It's certainly annoying when one is the 'ghostee' or recipient but the 'ghoster' is certainly free to take the ghost route if they so choose.
There's definitely no dividing line, though I'd be surprised if it occurs as often in serious relationships as it does after an online date or two or after some random encounters from a bar, etc.
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