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Ladies, did the silent treatment online is the best way to blow off a guy you don't like.
Often, mostly in Okcupid, you start a great conversation, all of the sudden you wnat to take the conversation out of OKC and take it to whatspp, you give her the number and say "we can't talk through here if you like but here is my number in case you want to talk over Whatsapp..."
And usually...that's it...silent treatment...happens also in FB.
It's that bad to give the number after you feel the conversation is interesting enough. I'm not even asking for her number I'm giving mine.
Often, no, they are okay and they gave their numbers as well, others say thank you and don't give out their numbers but kept things friendly and say I will contact you (sometime never did but still..).
So, it's the silent treatment the online norm to blow off a guy ???
They either aren't interested or are just looking for online attention to boost their ego. At any rate, you aren't missing anything.
The only time this happened to me during OLD was when a guy gave me a number, I didn't have a chance to call, then he messaged me to call, I didn't see the message because I wasn't checking every five seconds, then he messaged me again saying that he didn't have a cellphone and could only be near that phone for a few minutes more before he left. I still have no idea where he was or how he was accessing OLD, but just don't be that guy and you'll be fine.
Ladies, did the silent treatment online is the best way to blow off a guy you don't like.
Often, mostly in Okcupid, you start a great conversation, all of the sudden you wnat to take the conversation out of OKC and take it to whatspp, you give her the number and say "we can't talk through here if you like but here is my number in case you want to talk over Whatsapp..."
And usually...that's it...silent treatment...happens also in FB.
It's that bad to give the number after you feel the conversation is interesting enough. I'm not even asking for her number I'm giving mine.
Often, no, they are okay and they gave their numbers as well, others say thank you and don't give out their numbers but kept things friendly and say I will contact you (sometime never did but still..).
So, it's the silent treatment the online norm to blow off a guy ???
This happens to me a LOT. Online message, response, talk talk talk, move to exchange numbers.....radio silence. I'd say it's the most common "rejection" I get online. The timing is odd because the conversation seems to be going well enough. I assume that (when the conversation is going well), that they just want attention.
Edit: Some women are just genuinely stupid/ignorant/misinformed. Example: Mutual Tinder swipe. Couple of messages back and forth. I prompt for a place to meet, say...Friday? She responds, "sorry, I'm not looking to date". Ok...a little off guard, maybe she's just looking for friends. "No, I don't want to meet anybody".
"So...if you don't mind my asking, why are you on here, and why did you swipe me?"
"Because you're hot."
And that's it. She was literally treating Tinder like a phone-app version of "hot or not". Dodged a bullet there.
Ladies, did the silent treatment online is the best way to blow off a guy you don't like.
Often, mostly in Okcupid, you start a great conversation, all of the sudden you wnat to take the conversation out of OKC and take it to whatspp, you give her the number and say "we can't talk through here if you like but here is my number in case you want to talk over Whatsapp..."
Why was talking on OKcupid ok previously? If you told me "we can't" and you gave me your number "in case I wanted", I would assume you were fine in case I wasn't.
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And usually...that's it...silent treatment...happens also in FB.
It's that bad to give the number after you feel the conversation is interesting enough. I'm not even asking for her number I'm giving mine.
What is bad is dictating the course of the progress, not discussing the course of the progress.
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Often, no, they are okay and they gave their numbers as well, others say thank you and don't give out their numbers but kept things friendly and say I will contact you (sometime never did but still..).
So, it's the silent treatment the online norm to blow off a guy ???
Under the circumstance you describe, absolutely. AFAIC you asked for it (not in the retributive way but in real terms) with your "if you want". If she didn't want, what else is she supposed to do?
Edit: Some women are just genuinely stupid/ignorant/misinformed. Example: Mutual Tinder swipe. Couple of messages back and forth. I prompt for a place to meet, say...Friday? She responds, "sorry, I'm not looking to date". Ok...a little off guard, maybe she's just looking for friends. "No, I don't want to meet anybody".
"So...if you don't mind my asking, why are you on here, and why did you swipe me?"
"Because you're hot."
And that's it. She was literally treating Tinder like a phone-app version of "hot or not". Dodged a bullet there.
I was out with a couple of friends Saturday and one of them was telling us about a friend of hers who treats Tinder like a game. She's not interested in meeting anyone - she just likes swiping left and right when she's bored.
I had a couple of mutual matches because I accidentally swiped the wrong way. However, none of them ever contacted me so it didn't matter in the end. The only one from the app I talked to was underemployed, had no friends and liked that I get off work mid-afternoon as he wanted to spend 3-4 hours a day growing our relationship.
A guy did that to me recently. He was the one who asked for my number, but once I gave it to him I stopped hearing from him. I just don't git it....
I was having a great online conversation with someone who kept saying he wanted to meet me. So, I suggested a date I was free and I stopped hearing from him until after the date I suggested had passed.
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