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So my boyfriend was at the gym and I was at home, he arrives back and it's around 8pm. I've just started watching a film on his computer, he greets me and then I asks when I'm going to be done with his computer. So, I tell him that I'd really like it if I could continue watching this film on it, because the screen is really big and I don't feel like lying in bed with my tiny laptop. He's intermediately like "But..." and he then starts to launch into this massive sulk about how he has some stuff to do on his computer (I'm not really buying this as he spends every single night after work constantly glued to his computer until we go to bed.) So, I mean I protest because I feel like sticking up for myself, he becomes really angry and is acting like a hurt little child, he's saying things like "UHHH! YOU" and giving me horrible looks, like I've just deeply offended him or something.. I can't understand his behavior as I thought he wouldn't mind having a break from his computer whilst I just watched this film. Anyway, he ends up blowing this all way out of proportion saying things like "Oh, you just don't understand", and being quite abusive. A few minutes in, he declares that he's just going to go to bed and so he turns all of the lights off (our room is pitch black) and gets under the covers. He is then like "'Let's just break up - we don't work very well together anyway" and I think he calls me some name.
The reason why I didn't give in is because he has being incredibly spoilt growing up by his parents and he cannot handle it if he doesn't get his own way or has to make a compromise. He's 20 years old by the way.
The reason why I didn't give in is because he has being incredibly spoilt growing up by his parents and he cannot handle it if he doesn't get his own way or has to make a compromise. He's 20 years old by the way.
Twenty years old acting like a three year old?
Based on one incident of fighting over the computer, and hearing only your side of the story, I wouldn't think too much of it. But from your description, he was abusive to you, *and* he always has to have things his way. Doesn't sound like great boyfriend material to me
It was his computer and if he needed it for work (or for any reason really, it's his property) you should have given it back. You were only watching a movie. To me that was a little selfish and I would have been pissed too.
However his reaction as described was OTT. If he gets that angry, breaks up with you and calls you mean names all the time, I'd rethink this relationship.
If he doesn't do it all the time is have a serious talk with him over it. And I'd apologize for acting like a brat over his computer.
It was his computer and if he needed it for work (or for any reason really, it's his property) you should have given it back. You were only watching a movie. To me that was a little selfish and I would have been pissed too.
However his reaction as described was OTT. If he gets that angry, breaks up with you and calls you mean names all the time, I'd rethink this relationship.
If he doesn't do it all the time is have a serious talk with him over it. And I'd apologize for acting like a brat over his computer.
I agree with this.Now your boyfriend's reaction was OTT, and he was wrong to get that crazy about it, or call you out of your name. However, you weren't innocent either. If the computer belongs to him, then he has a right to ask for it regardless of what you're doing, especially if you're just watching a movie. So it really wasn't appropriate or within your right to decide when he can have his own personal property back. Especially when it's something he uses quite a bit. Buy your own computer, like he did.
Last edited by HappyRain; 02-04-2016 at 05:24 AM..
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