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Interesting how you admit that your parents played a role in terms of sheltering you. Yet before you were so defensive about your parents playing a role in your bad choices.
No, I said that my parents were not abusive narcissist, or whatever craziness you boldly claimed. Everyone's parents has an influence on how they turn out. But if someone makes bad choices, it is not always because their parents were authoritarian and abusive, like you claim.
And why are you turning this into a trial? Are you a lawyer?
You aren't too bright, are you? Like I said, my parents are nothing like this, and how do you know who her parents are? Honey, I have a degree in counseling. People with half a brain know that there are other factors that play into one's choice of partners. The whole "It's all your parents", is media, pop-psychology drivel.
Don't diagnose until you get your degree, 'kaythanks!
I'd say the person who isn't too bright is the one who tries to present herself as a "professional counselor" yet communicates in the manner above.
Either you're making stuff up about your professional training or you didn't pick up much in terms of how to communicate with people during your training
Calling people jerks is not the sign of a trained professional counselor
I just want to make it clear the ex boyfriend was not like this at all when we were together. So I didn't hold onto a one sided relationship with someone who was treating me poorly like someone mentioned, that is not the case. This behavior of his never came out until after the break up, and when he contacted me the other night.
I did not intentionally continue with the drama, that was not my plan, but yes it is a bad decision on my part to talk with him when he texted me, I shouldn't of. I thought that I could somehow get him to realize that what he did wasn't okay. I also wanted to try and get more answers from him as I did not feel I got much closure. When he kept telling me he cared and missed me, it actually upset me to hear that because I can't tell whether he means it or not. So again I continued contact because I thought eventually I would get answers that made sense. Most of the things he tells me, and his decisions he has made, do not make sense.
I understand when you say I am the problem. But it is very hard to let someone I was really in love with go. He has changed dramatically since he got with her, it's weird to deal with that. And him trying to put some blame on me, I felt like I had to defend myself. I still had a lot I wanted to say to him.
But I'm not going to be contacting him anymore so there isn't going to be any further problems. Please don't argue and be rude to one another.
I'd say the person who isn't too bright is the one who tries to present herself as a "professional counselor" yet communicates in the manner above.
Either you're making stuff up about your professional training or you didn't pick up much in terms of how to communicate with people during your training
Again, you aren't too bright. What I said here is that many factors play a role in forming a person and their choices. You blame a person's parents entirely. I'm saying, no, there are other factors as well.
Why are you so obsessed with me? Pretty strange.
You are a supposed trained professional counselor. Yet you call people jerks and tell them they are not very bright. Is this how you talk to people in real life?
I'd say the person who isn't too bright is the one who tries to present herself as a "professional counselor" yet communicates in the manner above.
Either you're making stuff up about your professional training or you didn't pick up much in terms of how to communicate with people during your training
Calling people jerks is not the sign of a trained professional counselor
How is that not a sign of a trained counselor? Have you paid me a dime? Are we in a session right now? Counselors are people, too. Just like doctors, lawyers, etc. I am not in a session right now, though sounds like you need to be in one..
I just want to make it clear the ex boyfriend was not like this at all when we were together. So I didn't hold onto a one sided relationship with someone who was treating me poorly like someone mentioned, that is not the case. This behavior of his never came out until after the break up, and when he contacted me the other night.
I did not intentionally continue with the drama, that was not my plan, but yes it is a bad decision on my part to talk with him when he texted me, I shouldn't of. I thought that I could somehow get him to realize that what he did wasn't okay. I also wanted to try and get more answers from him as I did not feel I got much closure. When he kept telling me he cared and missed me, it actually upset me to hear that because I can't tell whether he means it or not. So again I continued contact because I thought eventually I would get answers that made sense. Most of the things he tells me, and his decisions he has made, do not make sense.
I understand when you say I am the problem. But it is very hard to let someone I was really in love with go. He has changed dramatically since he got with her, it's weird to deal with that. And him trying to put some blame on me, I felt like I had to defend myself. I still had a lot I wanted to say to him.
But I'm not going to be contacting him anymore so there isn't going to be any further problems. Please don't argue and be rude to one another.
Don't pay attention to that guy trolling your thread. He's just an ass, and that's my professional opinion.
Some people in this world are just mean and troll others, because they feel empty inside. Like with the guy posting here, and your ex. Some just get off on being mean.
I just want to make it clear the ex boyfriend was not like this at all when we were together. So I didn't hold onto a one sided relationship with someone who was treating me poorly like someone mentioned, that is not the case. This behavior of his never came out until after the break up, and when he contacted me the other night.
I did not intentionally continue with the drama, that was not my plan, but yes it is a bad decision on my part to talk with him when he texted me, I shouldn't of. I thought that I could somehow get him to realize that what he did wasn't okay. I also wanted to try and get more answers from him as I did not feel I got much closure. When he kept telling me he cared and missed me, it actually upset me to hear that because I can't tell whether he means it or not. So again I continued contact because I thought eventually I would get answers that made sense. Most of the things he tells me, and his decisions he has made, do not make sense.
I understand when you say I am the problem. But it is very hard to let someone I was really in love with go. He has changed dramatically since he got with her, it's weird to deal with that. And him trying to put some blame on me, I felt like I had to defend myself. I still had a lot I wanted to say to him.
But I'm not going to be contacting him anymore so there isn't going to be any further problems. Please don't argue and be rude to one another.
Good for you for taking responsibility for your actions and deciding not to continue to have contact with him in the future. That should solve things in terms of him bugging you and making you feel guilty.
How is that not a sign of a trained counselor? Have you paid me a dime? Are we in a session right now? Counselors are people, too. Just like doctors, lawyers, etc. I am not in a session right now, though sounds like you need to be in one..
So, outside of counseling sessions, you call people jerks and tell them they're not very bright. I think I can see why you are struggling to find decent guys.
So, outside of counseling sessions, you call people jerks and tell them they're not very bright. I think I can see why you are struggling to find decent guys.
So, you're Mother Theresa? You've never called someone a jerk in your entire life, when they are being mean? What do you do for a living? What makes a counselor exempt for calling out an a$shole when we see one in real life? This shows how delusional you are.
And who said I was "struggling" to find decent guys?
You're just a miserable little troll, and this is your only way to get out your frustration in life, I get it. But I'm still reporting you for hijacking the thread and personal attacks.
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