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Wear what you want. It's not like you're parading naked
She could if she wanted to, but she knows what the results would be for her realtionship lol
Again, like so many of these threads.
The solution isnt based in a "control issues" its more of a respect issue hurting things.
How you both come to an understanding on respecting each other's values and beliefs is by dropping the need to accuse and shame one another, That's doing no good to the actual issue and creating an even larger bubble of conflict
actually take a moment and stop yourselves from acting emotionally and learn where the issue is coming from by examining how your partner thinks. You may not "like" or agree with them and they may not like or agree with you, but do not discredit they way of being just becuase of these differences.
That's who they are, it's gets no more simple than this.
Accept the differences and move forward knowing that's the factors you both have to work with. You have your pieces, now figure out how to play with them so each of you comes away with solution that considers the others feelings.
If you (or them) are unwilling to play and unwilling to accept your differences, you're allowing conflict to exist. Willingly exist in spite of common knowledge you both have of each other's way of being.
I can't answer what's right "for you" in his situation, that's for you to work through with your partner in your own attempts to find what is right for the both of you given your differences and desire to make things work.
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Your boyfriend should not be telling you what to wear. I don't care what his background is. This isn't Afghanistan and he's not the dang Taliban. If he wants to control a woman that way, let him go live where women sweat their butts off in burqas all summer.
You are caught up between that thin line of expressing yourself as a woman and respecting your man and knowing your place beside him. If an outfit matters that much, what is worth more to you in the long run..? @20, there is much to learn yet about one's self. So if you are not ready to act (i.e dress) like the type of woman this particular man expects from his potential wife, then be honest about it. Do you fit that bill... ? Better yet, does he fit yours ? Nothing inherently *wrong* with a tank top or skirt, but try to look at the big picture here...
Hey everyone!
So I've been dating my boyfriend for about 5 years now and were both 20 years old. We have always had an issue when it comes to me wearing a tank top in public or skirts that are a little above my knees. I'm not sure if I should just let this slide or not ( I haven't argued it yet but I feel like maybe I should). I don't ever show cleavage or anything just because I do like to be modest but it does get really hot in California during the summer time. I don't ever wear short shorts I never have, normally ill wear a skirt and try to make it look classy. Should I respect what he says and just wear pants or long skirts all summer or is this something that he is wrong for and should let go? Please be honest I respect all comments!!
We are not talking about a guy not wanting his gf to dress sexy.
He wants her to wear LONG PANTS or LONG SKIRTS only. Not even shorts. No tank top.
That plus his background is beyond "what is it worth more to please your bf ..."
OP, what does he say if you go to the beach in a bikini? Are you "allowed" to go out with your girlfriends at night?
Don't EVER let a guy tell you what do wear. This is controlling and abusive.
Wear what you want.
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