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it seems like in today's age people are going with the logic that relationships should be about caring for each other and not men being the bread winner or head provider. many young men today seem to agree with it and not want to take care of a woman financially but feel she should at least work to pay half of the rent. although many men i have spoken to say they don't mind taking care of their gf\wife (in my experience some of those men are all talk). some women also say they dont need a man to take care of them, but some women i met feel like a man should give them things/money if they care about them because according to how they were raised, that is what a man should do if he loves his gf\wife.
Nothing is 50/50 all the time. Couples should take care of each others' needs in ways that are right for them. Every couple will have a different balance, and it will change many times over their lifetime together.
I say that people should be doing whatever the heck they want in their own relationships and not worry about what others are doing.
This. There is no should or shouldn't. And people who think in those terms are close-minded. There is a "What I prefer", in which case then it's about being able to find a partner that wants similar things, and is of similar beliefs.
Some people want traditional relationships
Some want more liberal relationships
And some may want something more nonconformist relationships lol
I know couples where both people work, and I know couples with one income earner, and one stay at home spouse.
What I think is that if they are doing what is best for them as a couple, and as individuals, then they are doing it right. No matter which way they are going.
Girls are not raised thinking they need a man to take care of them. You never know how relationships are going to turn out. Sometimes the woman falls into a great paying job and rather than hiring someone to take care of the kids the husband has to stay home. Women have much better opportunities these days and most will take advantage of a great job.
From my point of view, the relationship should simply be mutual. A big thing to remember is no two people, no matter how happy they are together, are going to be on the same page all of the time. This is why talking about some issues early on is important. A big thing is a balance of distance and closeness, a topic that went undiscussed in my last relationship and was a big part of why it ended.
In terms of finances, that's again something that's kind of person specific. I think that if one person makes enough to financially support both people, great. I don't necessarily think it matters if it's a man or a woman. However, the person who isn't making money should still contribute in some other way. As to what that is would be dependent on specific times and different with different people. That might be cooking and cleaning, but it could also be other things.
My ideal relationship would involve both people making money though and then paying for rent and other bills together and just splitting up things like cooking and cleaning between the two so both people are involved and contributing. But again, it's person specific. If I was dating someone who loved cooking, I'd let them handle that and make up for not doing that else where.
Girls are not raised thinking they need a man to take care of them. You never know how relationships are going to turn out. Sometimes the woman falls into a great paying job and rather than hiring someone to take care of the kids the husband has to stay home. Women have much better opportunities these days and most will take advantage of a great job.
no, some girls are raised that why, as a matter of face, many women are still raised that way.
Nothing ever works out exactly 50/50 in any regard, but both partners should pull their weight as much as they possibly can in this as well as all other aspects of the relationship, IMO.
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