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And if that's the case, his girlfriend (or anyone) might argue that homosexuality is not something to be approved or disapproved of, it just is. And she thinks gay porn is hot. Which makes his opinion just as much of a slap in the face to her.
Absolutely. Which is why this relationship probably won't last.
Is her desire for gay porn and my opposition to porn and homosexuality a deal breaker?
Your disinterest in gay porn is only a dealbreaker if you try to prevent her from enjoying it when you're not around. All you need to say is that it's not for you, but you don't mind if she watches it, herself.
Your opposition to homosexuality is a dealbreaker because it makes you a homophobe and a hypocrite. No liberal worth his or her salt would be in "opposition to homosexuality." You're not as liberal as you think.
FTR, a little tip from the ladies' playbook: Most women I know who watch gay porn watch it for the incredibly buff bodies, manscaping, and good looks of the actors. Not that you have to compete with porn actors, but it's probably more about appreciating the male form than anything else, as the male actors in hetero porn created by and for men can look like real slobs.
Of course it's not a dealbreaker to me that my husband watches Sci-Fi and I don't like it. That's why we have separate bedrooms.
But not approving of homosexuality is a big thing in some people's minds, and for his girlfriend to watch gay porn is...like a slap in the face, in a way.
Hope that makes it clearer.
Eh. If she were watching it in front of him, or had the volume on full blast in the next room, then perhaps it would be disrespectful to him because she knows he doesn't like it. But if she's watching it on her own private time and he can't get past the fact that she does not share his objections to homosexuality and porn, then that's on him.
Lol everyone! I think I better create a different thread about whether you can call yourself part of a group if you don't agree with 100% of the ideology.
Think for yourself people; whenever I see someone pledge full allegiance to their political party, religion, or group philosophy then I know they are not thinking for themselves. Their group says it's true so it must be true? I think not.
Let's stay on topic and avoid personal attacks about whether I am justified in my thinking or not.
Calling me “immature, illogical, manchild” is only a reflection of yourself.
It's true that many people have sexual fantasies in their mind that they would never act out in reality.
It's not a matter of comparing it to “I like comedy and she likes sci fi” which is not a big deal. It is more a matter of what you allow in your consciousness. What you consume is what you become.
If someone watches lots of violence, they tend to become more aggressive. If someone watched lots of horror, they tend to become scared of the dark. If someone watches humor, they tend to view things more positively. If someone watchesTED talks they tend to think more.
So what does it mean when people watch porn, or specifically gay porn?
I feel that watching porn causes you to view the world differently. And in my opinion with negative effects.
As I said in my original post. I think porn creates callousness of sensual sensitivity. I feel like it promotes unrealistic stereotypes. I feel it dulls the experience in real life. I think it can cause perversion too (of course the concept of perversion is debatable).
Media (including porn) programs the mind.
My problem with my girlfriend, with regards to this issue, is that she would allow herself to be exposed to that kind of programming.
The root issue here is probably the fact that I have a more closed consciousness and she has a more open consciousness. One is not necessarily better than the other. As an optimistic person, I try to view these differences as balance points.
Your disinterest in gay porn is only a dealbreaker if you try to prevent her from enjoying it when you're not around. All you need to say is that it's not for you, but you don't mind if she watches it, herself.
Your opposition to homosexuality is a dealbreaker because it makes you a homophobe and a hypocrite. No liberal worth his or her salt would be in "opposition to homosexuality." You're not as liberal as you think.
FTR, a little tip from the ladies' playbook: Most women I know who watch gay porn watch it for the incredibly buff bodies, manscaping, and good looks of the actors. Not that you have to compete with porn actors, but it's probably more about appreciating the male form than anything else, as the male actors in hetero porn created by and for men can look like real slobs.
That's the downside to heterosexual porn: there's always some b*tch blocking my view
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