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It is that simple. I think, any grown man with a good head on his shoulders can figure out a solution to his problem/s. But this isn't the case/ that's why he is here asking questions.
It is that simple. I think, any grown man with a good head on his shoulders can figure out a solution to his problem/s. But this isn't the case/ that's why he is here asking questions.
Hmmmmmm... ................ I've always wondered why we were all on here most of the time! ........ LMAO!
No but seriously it's true I can understand asking for opinions on something maybe so they can perhaps get a better idea but I would think they would at least have some idea in the first place.....
Lol everyone! I think I better create a different thread about whether you can call yourself part of a group if you don't agree with 100% of the ideology.
Think for yourself people; whenever I see someone pledge full allegiance to their political party, religion, or group philosophy then I know they are not thinking for themselves. Their group says it's true so it must be true? I think not.
Let's stay on topic and avoid personal attacks about whether I am justified in my thinking or not.
Calling me “immature, illogical, manchild” is only a reflection of yourself.
It's true that many people have sexual fantasies in their mind that they would never act out in reality.
It's not a matter of comparing it to “I like comedy and she likes sci fi” which is not a big deal. It is more a matter of what you allow in your consciousness. What you consume is what you become.
If someone watches lots of violence, they tend to become more aggressive. If someone watched lots of horror, they tend to become scared of the dark. If someone watches humor, they tend to view things more positively. If someone watchesTED talks they tend to think more.
So what does it mean when people watch porn, or specifically gay porn?
I feel that watching porn causes you to view the world differently. And in my opinion with negative effects.
As I said in my original post. I think porn creates callousness of sensual sensitivity. I feel like it promotes unrealistic stereotypes. I feel it dulls the experience in real life. I think it can cause perversion too (of course the concept of perversion is debatable).
Media (including porn) programs the mind.
My problem with my girlfriend, with regards to this issue, is that she would allow herself to be exposed to that kind of programming.
The root issue here is probably the fact that I have a more closed consciousness and she has a more open consciousness. One is not necessarily better than the other. As an optimistic person, I try to view these differences as balance points.
Liberal is not a political party. It is a viewpoint that comes with certain philosophical underpinnings - in the view of the vast majority of people who identify as liberal, some ideas are up for debate (guns, drug legalization) and some are not (such as racial equality, gay rights, gender equality). A formal definition found online is as follows: "open to new behavior or opinions and willing to discard traditional values."
To declare homosexuality "illegitimate" is a blanket statement that is in direct violation of those philosophical underpinnings. And unless you have a religious objection, there is no remotely logical argument against homosexuality between consenting adults. And to say it's not legitimate is a fallacy, given that the vast number of happy and committed gay relationships (even marriages) would belie that. These relationships persist and thrive.
As for your girlfriend "allowing herself to be exposed" to male-on-male pornography, you're using a rather interesting phrasing. She's not passively "allowing" porn in her presence - she's actively seeking it out and deriving pleasure from it.
There IS a liberal argument to be made against pornography that is based in the idea of the respect and welfare of others, just as other liberals will argue the right of free agency and consenting adults.
But either because you seek to disapprove of relationships between consenting adults or because you have a moral opposition to porn, your relationship is doomed, unless you want your girlfriend to have a subpar sex life to accommodate your needs. Which would be pretty creepy of you.
Is her desire for gay porn and my opposition to porn and homosexuality a deal breaker?
Thank you for your thoughts and input!
It will be eventually.
The porn issue is important but the bigger issue is that she does not respect you.
Ask yourself these questions:
a) how long are you going to put up with not being respected?
b) at what time will you reach the point when you will have had enough of it?
and
c) what are you going to do?
"Liberal" is open-minded. I wouldn't call the OP "Liberal" at all.
Gay porn does nothing for me but I wouldn't have a problem with a significant other who watched it. It would be pretty hypocritical otherwise. Girl-girl porn isn't a favorite but I can always mentally turn it into a 3-some.
Are you trying to blind us with your brilliance? Ain't working.
B-but he used the word quintessential! And it has a ton of syllables!
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