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Its hard for me to leave my mom and sister for my husband. My husband wants our family ( me, him and our newborn son) to leave on our own. Currently, we live with my mom, sis and my nephew in my house. My husband has been convincing me to have our own house.
He sold his porsche so we can afford to pay for another house. We both have a nice paying job. I cant leave my my mom and sis tho. I feel like Im abandoning them ( i someway financially supporting them). I know I should be choosing my husband but It wont make me happy leaving my "family". Please advice. Thanks.
Its hard for me to leave my mom and sister for my husband. My husband wants our family ( me, him and our newborn son) to leave on our own. Currently, we live with my mom, sis and my nephew in my house. My husband has been convincing me to have our own house.
He sold his porsche so we can afford to pay for another house. We both have a nice paying job. I cant leave my my mom and sis tho. I feel like Im abandoning them ( i someway financially supporting them). I know I should be choosing my husband but It wont make me happy leaving my "family". Please advice. Thanks.
Ohhh DEAR!! Haven't you already committed to your own family that includes your husband and child? It's time you cut those apron strings..but no need to move far away, so will have plenty of Mom/Sis time!
Quik question tho. Where you are living actually YOUR House/Home or actually the only "Home you know"? Your post is kind of confusing. How would you be abandoning them? Why, not look to find a duplex/semidetached, where you and your family can live separately but still connected? Surely it can be worked out??
Ohhh DEAR!! Haven't you already committed to your own family that includes your husband and child? It's time you cut those apron strings..but no need to move far away, so will have plenty of Mom/Sis time!
Quik question tho. Where you are living actually YOUR House/Home or actually the only "Home you know"? Your post is kind of confusing. How would you be abandoning them? Why, not look to find a duplex/semidetached, where you and your family can live separately but still connected? Surely it can be worked out??
We live at the house I bought when I was single. When I got married, my husband moved in with us. But his not comfortbale living with other people in the house. He said he wants just us. But I was able to negotiate to take my mom with us. Im having a hard time tho thinking I will be leaving my sister. She will have a hard time leaving alone with her 9 year old son.
We live at the house I bought when I was single. When I got married, my husband moved in with us. But his not comfortbale living with other people in the house. He said he wants just us. But I was able to negotiate to take my mom with us. Im having a hard time tho thinking I will be leaving my sister. She will have a hard time leaving alone with her 9 year old son.
Your husband sold his porsche and you said yourself that you two make enough to buy another house. First, I commend your husband. Secondly, you need to acknowledge that you have your OWN family. Getting your own house does not mean abandon your mom and sister.
If you can't fathom having to leave your mom and sister to live in a separate house with your own family, then sometime down the road, I can foresee you husband taking the money from his sold porsche and buying a separate house without you, if you get the drift.
Its hard for me to leave my mom and sister for my husband. My husband wants our family ( me, him and our newborn son) to leave on our own. Currently, we live with my mom, sis and my nephew in my house. My husband has been convincing me to have our own house.
He sold his porsche so we can afford to pay for another house. We both have a nice paying job. I cant leave my my mom and sis tho. I feel like Im abandoning them ( i someway financially supporting them). I know I should be choosing my husband but It wont make me happy leaving my "family". Please advice. Thanks.
He's got every right to want a family home with you and your kid
If you are helping your family financially then that's great but you can still help out whilst living elsewhere LOL.
When you got married and had a child, THAT is your new family, and if you don't put their needs and welfare first, you will end up a divorcee. Then you can spend all the time you want with your Mom and Sister !
Time to grow up and put your big girl panties on and be a Wife and Mother first, and a Daughter and Sister second.
Every married couple needs to be on their own and make their own lives and traditions. Sounds like you are very immature and need to decide who is more important to you. If you continue to think this way, it is telling your Husband that he is second to them, and most guys will bail out if that is the way it is.
Believe me, you will lose him if you continue with this juvenile thinking.
Your mom doesn't sound like she is a problem - it's your spineless sister, with her back-talking slob of a son. No man (nor should you) could live with that ill-mannered piggy brat. Since she can't make him behave, or clean up after himself - she should be booted out so only she suffers with her brat.
She should pay you rent on the existing home, after you move to a new one. Otherwise, it's time for her to find another place.
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