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I wondered about that, too. Maybe in order to qualify for the loan, she needed to add him, for their combined income? She said she didn't make much at the time. The situation isn't clear.
If that is the case then she could not afford the home and should have waited and this is purely my opinion which means nothing to anyone but me.
Get the cat fixed if it is not, This solves "most" issues with female spraying. It's next to impossible to get them to stop once they have started marking areas of your home they will continue to do so until you change the pattern. It's not going to be an easy fix and require a lot of personal attention to correct your cats behavior
Your issues are deeper than just the cat, if you haven't totally given up yet in your mind consult a couples therapist
Last edited by rego00123; 04-27-2016 at 01:20 PM..
First, make sure there is nothing physically wrong with the cat.
Second, make sure there is nothing mentally wrong with the cat. Like, is it being bullied by the other two? If it's not spayed or neutered, for the love of all that is holy, get it fixed.
Third, if nothing is wrong with the cat, keep the cat in only one or two rooms. The cat does not have to have free run of the place. This is not to say the cat should have no human contact. Your husband, who apparently doesn't mind living with the smell of cat pee, can go play with the cat in those rooms. You know, because he has to go in there to clean up the cat pee, anyway, right? He IS cleaning up after the cat, yes? Oh, and when the cat eventually passes, he's the one who is going to pay to have the carpet and padding torn out and replaced, and he's the one who is going to paint and refinish whatever the cat has destroyed, right? His cat, his responsibility.
Fourth, I'm just going to come out and say it: You'll both outlive the cat. It's up to you whether your marriage does. Personally--and I am so very loathe to say this--but the smell alone would have me asking him to rehome the cat. The smell of cat pee makes me gag. There might be a local with a barn who needs a mouser or something, where the cat peeing all over creation wouldn't matter so much.
Yeah, I don't get why "limit the cat's free access to any and everywhere in the house and confine it to rooms where the least amount of damage can be done" is being interpreted as "deprive the cat of human contact."
There are compromises possible, here. I doubt that the couple in question is really seeking too hard for them, though.
Yeah, I don't get why "limit the cat's free access to any and everywhere in the house and confine it to rooms where the least amount of damage can be done" is being interpreted as "deprive the cat of human contact."
There are compromises possible, here. I doubt that the couple in question is really seeking too hard for them, though.
I have a bird. Birds poop, when they want to, where they want to, end of story. So I have towels around the base of his cage (his door is only closed when I'm not home or when it's time for bed, so he's always sitting on the door or pooping off the roof), and I put bird blankets and towels on the furniture when he's going to be out there watching TV and hanging out with me. Once he poops a few times on them, they go in the wash.
I know cat pee is a bit different, but if they decide to keep the cat in a couple of rooms, maybe they can put drop-cloths down over plastic liners (like shower curtain liners) or something to protect the carpet or flooring. The husband can launder the drop cloths and replace the liners as necessary. If he really loves the cat, he'd be thinking of creative solutions to keep the cat without ruining the house, vs taking the attitude that his cat should be able to stink the joint up like a case of corked Sauvignon Blanc.
BTW, I don't know if anyone has suggested this, but maybe the OP can ask about this on the Pet forum, in the Cat section. Surely other people have dealt with peeing cats.
If that car were peeing in my house my spouse would come home one day and it would be gone. If they didn't like it they can decide to put the cat over me - that only proves they have serious priority issues.
BTW you might want to lock the offending beast in a room at night
Why are you fighting over something that can be fixed?
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