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So a guy friend of mine had a first date this past Friday with a girl he met off a dating app. He said the date went well, she was attractive and they had good conversation. They went for drinks at a bar, so when they were getting ready to leave my friend went to pay for his and her drinks with a credit card, but the place was cash only (the girl had picked place, and never told him it was cash only). So when the bartender told him they don't take cards he said "oh ok I have to get cash" luckily there was an ATM at the place, but this whole thing happened in front of the girl and she had not said a word, not even a "oh do you need some cash"? My friend said he wouldn't have let her pay, but given the situation she should've at least offered something.
Anyway as a result of this he said he wouldn't be seeing her again, which I think is a bit drastic especially if he was into her up until this happened. I personally don't think it was that big of a deal, I mean who knows maybe she didn't have cash on her so she didn't want to say anything. Anyways just wanted to know how many guys would be turned off in that situation? Would it prevent you from asking her out again?
I'm failing to see the issue at all. I would have appreciated her not offering cash as it would have just added to the awkwardness. Hope that guy enjoys being single cause if that's a deal breaker nobody will ever be good enough.
If the guy was the one that invited the girl out, then it's his responsibility to take care of all financial transactions.
You should always be prepared for all possibilities on dates, and that includes carrying cash as well as credit cards.
Maybe it would have been courteous to at least ask, but that's an awkward situation for the girl, can't really blame her for not responding.
I wouldn't not go on further dates based on this one incident alone.
Yea he said he would've paid even if she offered, but the fact that she didn't say anything is what bothered him. I agree with you though, I think it was an awkward situation and she probably didn't know what to say. I've been to this particular place he went to and drinks are pretty cheap there, so he must've really had not a penny on him, which is probably not too smart when going on a date.
I'm failing to see the issue at all. I would have appreciated her not offering cash as it would have just added to the awkwardness. Hope that guy enjoys being single cause if that's a deal breaker nobody will ever be good enough.
I advised him to let it go and ask her out again, especially since it's not like he's got an array of woman waiting for him in the wings.
If anything I would have been turned off that he didn't come prepared especially since it wasn't an expensive place.
Out on a date especially a first date, I'm not offering to pay anything and any guy that gets upset about that is not a guy I want to be with anyway.
Her offering to pay wouldn't have changed the situation but it would have made him look worse than he already did. He might not have to worry about being interested in her as she may no longer be interested in him, I wouldn't.
I advised him to let it go and ask her out again, especially since it's not like he's got an array of woman waiting for him in the wings.
Yea I'm sure he'll ask her out again.
No offense, but some guys are sometimes overly sensitive and over analyze certain situations and make it out to be worse than it actually is. I admit I am like that sometimes. We'll look back and wonder, why didn't this person say this or do that.
It was an awkward situation for the girl and put her on the spot, so no need for him to hold it against her for this one incident.
If anything I would have been turned off that he didn't come prepared especially since it wasn't an expensive place.
Out on a date especially a first date, I'm not offering to pay anything and any guy that gets upset about that is not a guy I want to be with anyway.
Her offering to pay wouldn't have changed the situation but it would have made him look worse than he already did. He might not have to worry about being interested in her as she may no longer be interested in him, I wouldn't.
Yea he said he would've paid even if she offered, but the fact that she didn't say anything is what bothered him.
^ This ^ just sounds like a test or something.
I have a feeling on closer inspection he decided he wasn't as wild about her as he'd hoped to be so he's using this awkward situation (how could she have "won" here? He says he didn't want her to pay anyway...how far should she have pushed...would that just have made him feel more uncomfortable...etc.) as his excuse not to ask her out again.
I think if he had been nuts about her he wouldn't have given it all a second thought.
Just my thoughts, I don't know this person.
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