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Hello.
I am divorced. Three kids ages 14, 12 and 8. Im 44 y.o. My girlfriend is 37. She wants to get married and have another child. I do well at work. I think Im a good person. I am thinking about this but tell me PLEASE, PLEASE. What happens ? Have anyone gone through this ? What is it like ? What is your experience ?
Guys, girls...whoever. Please, any advice ?
Hello.
I am divorced. Three kids ages 14, 12 and 8. Im 44 y.o. My girlfriend is 37. She wants to get married and have another child. I do well at work. I think Im a good person. I am thinking about this but tell me PLEASE, PLEASE. What happens ? Have anyone gone through this ? What is it like ? What is your experience ?
Guys, girls...whoever. Please, any advice ?
I have no experience in any of the above but if you think it will make you happy and it's want YOU want then go for it mate
Doing well at work, or being a good person has little to do with this.
Your question is around whether you feel a desire to make a marriage commitment to this woman, and whether you feel you want to father another child with her. Both are huge commitments, especially at 44 (now) and with three kids already of your own.
I do not think we need to tell you how a baby affects your life, with three kids already. Take your life now, and the needs of an infant and raising it to your present situation. How you feel your current children may react.
I know many mixed families. My brother and sister in law have kids aged 18, 1, and a second to be born in September. They make it work in a loving household.
It depends what you want. If you want it, then you will work to make it work.
Seriously! You should be saying, "Been there... Done that!"
IMO I would NOT do a 'Do over.' Actually, I cringe when somebodies baby starts crying. At your age I can't understand why you would want this.
For some reason it seems there are women who feel a need to procreate with their new man.
While I agree with most of this, it sounds like the new woman may not have kids of her own.
I personally do not want more kids, so I asked my new boyfriend several times if he was good with not having kids of his own. We would not be compatible if he felt like my two kids were not enough.
Hello.
I am divorced. Three kids ages 14, 12 and 8. Im 44 y.o. My girlfriend is 37. She wants to get married and have another child. I do well at work. I think Im a good person. I am thinking about this but tell me PLEASE, PLEASE. What happens ? Have anyone gone through this ? What is it like ? What is your experience ?
Guys, girls...whoever. Please, any advice ?
What do you mean? The two of you babydance, right? That's how it's done. What are you asking, exactly? The dynamics of a second marriage or having a child with another partner, or the dynamic of adding a sibling to the mix? Beyond that, you have three kids, so you don't need a lecture or advice about parenting and what it costs or whatever (you will get a lot of advice to abandon all marriage and baby talk from dudebros and bitter boys 'cause evil womenz have vagina tractor beams that trap poor helpless wittle men).
But yeah, *if* you want to remarry and have another baby, not because she wants to, rather, both of you need to be on board, then give it a try.
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