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Old 05-03-2016, 05:15 PM
 
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after a devastating break up i met that old friend from primary school , who was struggling to forget her ex , i gave some help , but i realised that im developping feelings for her.
she is smart and beautiful and we have the same tastes (music , tv shows etc) , but what pisses me is that she's threating me like an option ! she call/text me when she wants i always answer , i help her whenever and wherever she needs it, but when i call or text she answers when she wants.
i dont know what im supposed to do?
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Old 05-03-2016, 05:17 PM
 
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Have you ever asked her out, if only informally? If not, try it. See what happens. You'll find out where you stand right away.
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Old 05-03-2016, 05:19 PM
 
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ill be rejected , she's just getting out of a long relationship
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Old 05-03-2016, 05:21 PM
 
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ill be rejected , she's just getting out of a long relationship
Ask her anyway, or invite her to some kind of group thing with your friends.
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Old 05-03-2016, 05:28 PM
 
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we do group things like friends meetings and we traveled together , sometimes i think she uses me to forget her ex
and to be honest i dont really mind to be friendzoned as long it doesnt hurt none of us , my question was abt the way i should deal with her ignoring my calls and messages .
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Old 05-03-2016, 05:29 PM
 
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Either ask her out or quit allowing her to use you at her convenience.
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Old 05-03-2016, 05:30 PM
 
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we do group things like friends meetings and we traveled together , sometimes i think she uses me to forget her ex
and to be honest i dont really mind to be friendzoned as long it doesnt hurt none of us , my question was abt the way i should deal with her ignoring my calls and messages .
If you're only friends, there's nothing you can do. She's treating you like a friend.
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Old 05-03-2016, 05:33 PM
 
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thanks
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Old 05-03-2016, 05:36 PM
 
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Your only option is to try to shift gears, and change the nature of the relationship. If you're not willing to try that, then you have no choice but to go with the status quo.
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Old 05-03-2016, 05:49 PM
 
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what dp ypu mean by "try to shift gears, and change the nature of the relationship."
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