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For a little background I am 29 and my girlfriend of 2 years who is 28 has started being controlling. Originally she wasn't like this, but close to two months ago she had a falling out with two of her girlfriends. She would hang out with them quite often and have girl nights out which I didn't have an issue with at all and was glad she could do her own thing while I did mine with my buddies.
Thing is ever since she and they stopped being friends she does not want me to go do anything with my friends. My friends and I in particular love to fish and we would go fish about twice a month, about every other week. A few times my girlfriend would come as well. But just this week my friends called up asking if I want to go fishing this week and I said sure and when I told my girlfriend (we live together) she did not like that and said she didn't want me to go I told her she could come but she just said she doesn't want to go anywhere but just wants me to.
I am sorry that my girlfriend and her friends aren't friends anymore but I don't think it's fair that she is upset that I want to hang out with my friends.
Have your buds call her and guilt her into saying yes.
Guilt her into saying *yes* to what? Giving him *permission* to go and do something without her?
BS, I am an adult and do not have to ask permission from anyone to do what I want to do.
Her loss of friends, her issue to deal with. I find it interesting though that she has no other friends in addition to the ones she just lost.
If I had a falling out with my two BF my husband would make sure he knew why. That would be huge. Unless she breaks up with friends a lot? Then it's a red flag.
How can you NOT know?
Anyway, I would cut her a little slack, because she is feeling a little lonely, but let her know you will be going back to fishing and stuff within the month. You offered for her to come, and you don't go a lot. Your BF RDA is being met.
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The fact that she had a falling out with her friends isn't your fault, and you should not feel guilty going fishing with your friends a few times a month. It sounds like she has spare time and now wants you to give up what you like. She needs to find other things to occupy her time or try and make new friends. I go out several times a week sometimes with my friends to see live music, and my G/F is perfectly fine with that. We still spend a lot of time together doing things we both enjoy.
And you want to keep dating this immature person because...?
Sex.
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