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And I got another one today, exactly a week later. Just asking me if I'm getting in some pool time. I replied not yet, and he hasn't texted back after that.
Yes I KNOW I should block his number/not reply, but there is still part of me that thinks we will get back together. Ugh!
Clear as day- if you're interested, the door is open! Congratulations, if you are indeed interested.
If you never took the bait you don't know what the guy really wanted(although it sounds like you too it a few times). I agree a lot of the time the guy may just want another roll in the hay, but sometimes if you were actually fun to be around they may just want to be friends and they just needed some time away.
Sure, but this isn't just about what he wants. The OP said she made it clear she does not want to be friends (or I guess just friends). He's disrespecting her wishes and her replies are telling him, "That's okay. It's still all about what you want. Things can still he unequal and I'm okay with that. Haven't I always been? Jump randomly back in and out at will."
Not the way I'd be going, personally. N to the ope.
OP the dude is faking with your mind. Don't let him. He broke off he needs to find another source for comfort. Don't reply and block him if you still feel unsure.
So here's the latest for anyone following my saga! Hadn't heard from him in over a week, then last night around 7:30 I got, "I do miss hanging out on the patio with you". Note, not that he misses ME, but misses hanging out. We spent several evenings a week last summer on his screened in patio drinking wine and talking, now that the weather is nice again I have a feeling sitting out there alone kinda sucks. Again, I sent a short reply but again, nothing back from him. If there is a next time, I'm going to be very blunt and ask him what his intentions are, because this is screwing with my head! I should have last night, but it really caught me off guard and before I knew it, I had replied.
So here's the latest for anyone following my saga! Hadn't heard from him in over a week, then last night around 7:30 I got, "I do miss hanging out on the patio with you". Note, not that he misses ME, but misses hanging out. We spent several evenings a week last summer on his screened in patio drinking wine and talking, now that the weather is nice again I have a feeling sitting out there alone kinda sucks. Again, I sent a short reply but again, nothing back from him. If there is a next time, I'm going to be very blunt and ask him what his intentions are, because this is screwing with my head! I should have last night, but it really caught me off guard and before I knew it, I had replied.
His texts seem right in line with his overall non-committal attitude. He'll probably continue to text here and there as long as you reply. It'll help him feel less alone without him actually having to make any effort.
You know there are no chances of anything serious or anything changing, yet you doing the same thing as if expecting a different outcome. You know nothing good can come of this. Cut your losses and move on.
So here's the latest for anyone following my saga! Hadn't heard from him in over a week, then last night around 7:30 I got, "I do miss hanging out on the patio with you". Note, not that he misses ME, but misses hanging out. We spent several evenings a week last summer on his screened in patio drinking wine and talking, now that the weather is nice again I have a feeling sitting out there alone kinda sucks. Again, I sent a short reply but again, nothing back from him. If there is a next time, I'm going to be very blunt and ask him what his intentions are, because this is screwing with my head! I should have last night, but it really caught me off guard and before I knew it, I had replied.
Honey...why are you replying?
DON'T tell him you need to know what his intentions are and whether he's messing with your head, or you're giving him exactly what he needs: the assurance that he still affects you to a pretty damned remarkable extent.
Let him get his own assurances, and let them be based on treating some girl with respect, or else finding a completely insecure woman who hangs onto his every word...but the first won't be you, and the second SHOULD NEVER be you.
Yes I KNOW I should block his number/not reply, but there is still part of me that thinks we will get back together. Ugh!
If you still have hopes of this and are kind of wondering if he is just testing the water to see if it's a possibility but refuse to just be a friend, I would consider asking him outright... is he is doing that or just trying to stay friendly.
People do get back together sometimes after a separation and realizing it was a mistake.
But,If he's just a little lonely and just wants to be friends, tell him one more time that you won't take that role, you don't want to hear from him at all and let him know you will no longer be replying and that you are blocking his number to insure it.
Excuse the bluntness here, but for God's sake, just stop replying.
Dude is playing mind games and apparently winning.
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Hadn't heard from him in over a week, then last night around 7:30 I got, "I do miss hanging out on the patio with you". Note, not that he misses ME, but misses hanging out. We spent several evenings a week last summer on his screened in patio drinking wine and talking, now that the weather is nice again I have a feeling sitting out there alone kinda sucks. Again, I sent a short reply but again, nothing back from him. If there is a next time, I'm going to be very blunt and ask him what his intentions are, because this is screwing with my head! I should have last night, but it really caught me off guard and before I knew it, I had replied. 
