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If you are in a relationship, are you able to stay friends with your past "Friends with Benefits" as now just "Friends"? How does your significant other feel about this? What do you see as acceptable? what do you see as crossing the line?
Location: RI, MA, VT, WI, IL, CA, IN (that one sucked), KY
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Of course. They're friends. Most people don't drop friends because they start dating someone. I certainly wouldn't tolerate a SO trying to dictate to me who my friends may be and may not be, and I haven't run into such a person that would try in many many many years. Of course, if I was in a monogamous relationship the benefits would have ended, so that's a non issue.
A FB is a different thing entirely and would be handled differently. That would just end, and there would be no more contact.
I did keep them as friends but my situation my not be the norm. Wife knows them and my history with them.
I don't know about the rest of you.... but the circle of people important to one's life is a part of who they are. Expecting them to drop friends is akin to forcing them to change a fundamental part of who they are.... I could never ever drop a friend under those circumstances nor ask anyone else to do so
Location: RI, MA, VT, WI, IL, CA, IN (that one sucked), KY
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Originally Posted by usayit
I did keep them as friends but my situation my not be the norm. Wife knows them and my history with them.
I don't know about the rest of you.... but the circle of people important to one's life is a part of who they are. Expecting them to drop friends is akin to forcing them to change a fundamental part of who they are.... I could never ever drop a friend under those circumstances nor ask anyone else to do so
Many cannot remain just friends with an ex relationship, they lack the maturity to do so and keep the past in the past.
They may also find themselves with a current partner who lacks self esteem, is insecure and jealous who cannot keep the past in the past.
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