husband who never wants to spend weekends at home (wife, married, women)
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Hi i've been married for almost 2 years, but me and my husband have been together for over 4 years. I knew it from the beginning that he never likes to stay at home. But since we've gotten married, he'd always go out and stay at his friends or coworker's house all day on saturdays and sundays instead of staying home with me. Is this normal? I feel like we have a very strong relationship, we never argue about anything, and he's very loving when he IS with me. I'm just starting to feel a little anxious cuz of him rather spending all day with friends on a weekend than with me. Maybe i'm just feeling insecure, but aren't weekends supposed to be spent with family, like ur wife, and not coworkers or buddies? Even though I can handle being alone all day doing my own thing, nobody likes to be lonely.
Maybe i'm just feeling insecure, but aren't weekends supposed to be spent with family, like ur wife, and not coworkers or buddies? Even though I can handle being alone all day doing my own thing, nobody likes to be lonely.
Weekends can be spent with both family AND friends. As far as being lonely and you being alone, why don't you have any of your own friends?
I agree he should spend MORE time with you. But expecting all weekend every weekend is asking too much.
but if i tell him not to go out, and go out with me instead, won't i become one of those women who try to force their men to choose between them and their friends... ?
but if i tell him not to go out, and go out with me instead, won't i become one of those women who try to force their men to choose between them and their friends... ?
No. What you do is suggest for example that he go out with you on Friday night and he can go out with his friends on Saturday night. AND you make some of your own friends and go out with them Saturday night as well.
No matter what, you do not TELL him what to do. You have a mutual discussion about it.
Weekends can be spent with both family AND friends. As far as being lonely and you being alone, why don't you have any of your own friends?
I agree he should spend MORE time with you. But expecting all weekend every weekend is asking too much.
Do you have kids?
we don't have kids.
my friends are all married and have a family to take care of, so i don't really want to "intrude". and I personally am not the kind who enjoys hanging out all day neither.
the problem is my husband never stays at home on weekends. he's out every weekend with his friends. good thing is he usually come home by dinner. I guess he's finding balance between them and me by spending day time with them and night time with me. i don't know...
my friends are all married and have a family to take care of, so i don't really want to "intrude". and I personally am not the kind who enjoys hanging out all day neither
Then those "friends" are not your friends anymore.
It seems to me that you DO want to be one of those women who tells their husband to give up his friends. You want him to meet EVERY need you have 100% for sex, love, family, and friendship. That is unhealthy and is the exact type of mentality that frequently leads to failed marriages.
i thought strong friendship is the key to a successful marriage?? and i heard from ppl with very successful marriages that they and their spouse are usually best friends.
right now i'm feeling love/marraige/sex is all i get from the husband, but no friendship. what if i grow old and ugly some day, will he stick around for me??
i thought strong friendship is the key to a successful marriage?? and i heard from ppl with very successful marriages that they and their spouse are usually best friends.
right now i'm feeling love/marraige/sex is all i get from the husband, but no friendship. what if i grow old and ugly some day, will he stick around for me??
If you are so demanding and so controlling he won't. At that point you really will be completely alone since you do not feel the need to have friends and your social skills are probably relatively weak (this is not meant to be offensive and they could have been great at one time, it's just you are not using them now).
Strong friendship is key yes but, at the same time, it shouldn't be your ONLY friendship. Relying 100% on a single person to meet all basic needs for companionship in your life is extremely unhealthy.
but it isn't my only friendship. i have girl/friends that i talk to everyday, just on weekends, i leave them alone to their family and whatnot. cuz i guess i have this mentality that weekends are meant for family, and such is married life! is that not the case?
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