Handling co current relationships (dating, married, woman, difference)
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So I temporarily moved to a new city that was far away for work and got very serious with a girl (girl A). We were exclusive the whole time but never made it official because I was leaving eventually. The girl was crazy about me and I think would have married me. Well I just got back to my home city last week and wasn't really to jump into anything serious. Despite this, I've been dating this girl for literally 8 days and things are progressing VERY fast. She seems crazy about me and is already wanting me to stay over multiple nights in a row etc.
Well I have a weekend trip planned at the end of next month to go to meet girl A and am afraid things will progress so much in that time that girl B will not want me to go. I'm not sure if I should just not let things get exclusive before then or just say I'm going somewhere else for the weekend. It would break girl A if I canceled on here because I'm dating someone else already. She wants me in her life, even if I'm far away. I honestly think it is best to keep them both in the dark until this vacation is over.
Location: RI, MA, VT, WI, IL, CA, IN (that one sucked), KY
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We never dated other people, but never said that we couldn't either. We were both exclusive to on another despite the ability to date others.
So you were only dating each other but didn't agree to date exclusively. Got it. No issue here. Don't worry about things that haven't happened. Cart before horse.
SO what do I do about the trip I have planned? Right now I can take it but things might be more serous before then. That is my question.
Things might be more serious for who?
You? I would think this would preclude you from wanting Lady A.
But if you mean for her, then you damn well better let her know you still consider yourself free to see others.
Things might be more serious for who?
You? I would think this would preclude you from wanting Lady A.
But if you mean for her, then you damn well better let her know you still consider yourself free to see others.
Well things will never be exclusive long term relationship with lady A. She is 100's of miles away now. But we still have this trip planned in a month that I don't want to cancel.
Location: RI, MA, VT, WI, IL, CA, IN (that one sucked), KY
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Well things will never be exclusive long term relationship with lady A. She is 100's of miles away now. But we still have this trip planned in a month that I don't want to cancel.
Well things will never be exclusive long term relationship with lady A. She is 100's of miles away now. But we still have this trip planned in a month that I don't want to cancel.
I think it's selfish to go on a trip with a woman who is so crazy about you she'd marry you, yet you're in a very new, yet hot and heavy situation with another woman. Let woman A go and don't go on the trip, which is only stringing her along.
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