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The premise of the 80/20 rule is that you will never get more than 80% of what you want in a partner, the 80/20 rule is why many cheat and why many have a fear of commitment.
Examples:
"she is a great mother to my children,beautiful, keeps herself in shape and runs the household perfectly, but she only want's to have sex twice a week"
or
"he is a great guys, funny. charming, attractive, great lover, is faithful, hut he is broke, lives in a studio apartment and rides the bus to his dish washing job at Denny's"
In a perfect world the 20% you don't like consists of things like "she has bad morning breath because of her low carb diet that keeps her slim and toned" or "he keeps leaving the toilet seat up." you stuff that looks small in the bigger picture.
Now I had an ex once who said I was 90% the perfect boyfriend a few days before dumping me, the 10% she did not like was that she thought I lacked ambition(which I lived within my means never mooched off of her even when she offered and even took her out every 2 weeks). a year later she tried to come back for months blowing up my phone and sending emails each one a small novel.
OP, I think you're just deeply discouraged and frustrated.
If I were you, I try to understand why not dating/not being a relationship affects you so much to point of constantly trying to understand why relationships suck and why you feel the need to come up with so many different theories.
It sounds like something my 10-year-old would say as a dramatic urban legend.
OP, as intelligent, deep and interesting as you are, you KNOW what your problems are. Please don't be disingenuous continuing to bring up new threads like this one. You know you're on the antisocial side, live financially very close to the vest/semi-off the grid which naturally is going to eliminate a certain percentage of women (well, all people...how about friends, guy friends? Do you have those? You don't mention any), generally don't go out except at night, and refuse to smile in your photos/wear bandannas and carry weapons with a glare on your face in photos. You know you have anxiety and you may have depression. Fix those - stop looking for reasons outside yourself. You already know what needs to be fixed even just for your own happiness, much less bringing a second person into the equation.
We as humans feel the need to analyze, to the point of silliness.
Anyone with any sense in their heads know that no one single human could fulfill 100 percent of the needs of their partner. This is so much commons sense that I shouldn't have to even mention it.
People cheat for variety of reasons, a good chunk of the time it's just to get some strange on the side and to keep what you have at home. People shouldn't get married if they can't accept that their partner doesn't have every trait they want and aren't willing to be monogamous, otherwise, why get married in the first place??
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