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The obvious lesson from this, OP, is to not take your first dates to dinner. Do something more casual, and save dinner for when you know her better and feel there's real relationship potential there.
This girl I met at a bar gave me her number, we flirt over text and got dinner once, but now even though she texts me quite a bit, any time I suggest a time to hang out she has an excuse or is busy.
I figured out quickly I'm being used for the occasional free meal and someone to text when she's bored.
Do I just ignore her? Do I call her out on it and explain how I feel (I think that would be lame). What do I do when she texts me "where have you been, I miss talking to you!"?
Call her out on her bull****. I do it and it worked out with one girl years ago, we ended up having sex. I never paid for her dinners, she just seemed to be using me as a "text buddy" for awhile. If more people called others out on their stupidly immature behavior, the world would be a lot better.
I also suggest never paying for a girl's dinner early-on even though I will be flamed for this view. It's not the 1950s anymore...
The obvious lesson from this, OP, is to not take your first dates to dinner. Do something more casual, and save dinner for when you know her better and feel there's real relationship potential there.
He can still take her to dinner on the first date, but supersizing would be right out. That's strictly second date material.
It's the third date they can start going out for dinner at places without a mascot.
This girl I met at a bar gave me her number, we flirt over text and got dinner once, but now even though she texts me quite a bit, any time I suggest a time to hang out she has an excuse or is busy.
I figured out quickly I'm being used for the occasional free meal and someone to text when she's bored.
Do I just ignore her? Do I call her out on it and explain how I feel (I think that would be lame). What do I do when she texts me "where have you been, I miss talking to you!"?
I'm guessing dinner didn't go very well.
I bet you were slow in the romance department.
Did you reach over and hold her hand during dinner? Did you chew with your mouth closed?
Well...if you feel you're not getting anything out of the association, not even friendship that is valuable to you, and if you feel used, I don't see any reason to answer. Just ignore, but not pointedly or angrily or stompily (I know that's not a word) or anything; just don't put much stock in her texts. If she asks to go out, tell her "maybe some time" or if she asks you for an actual date/time tell her you're busy, and let the association die from neglect.
I'm not advocating being coy or passive-aggressive or anything, I just think taking some big stance will make you look and feel foolish. She's not taking much stock in you so don't take much stock in her. Let her fade away. She's not losing out on anything and neither are you.
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Is that what CD-R has boiled down to? Teaching kids their manners? lol
