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Old 08-25-2016, 12:55 PM
 
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This girl I met at a bar gave me her number, we flirt over text and got dinner once, but now even though she texts me quite a bit, any time I suggest a time to hang out she has an excuse or is busy.

I figured out quickly I'm being used for the occasional free meal and someone to text when she's bored.

Do I just ignore her? Do I call her out on it and explain how I feel (I think that would be lame). What do I do when she texts me "where have you been, I miss talking to you!"?
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Old 08-25-2016, 12:58 PM
 
Location: Jacksonville
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This girl I met at a bar gave me her number, we flirt over text and got dinner once, but now even though she texts me quite a bit, any time I suggest a time to hang out she has an excuse or is busy.

I figured out quickly I'm being used for the occasional free meal and someone to text when she's bored.

Do I just ignore her? Do I call her out on it and explain how I feel (I think that would be lame). What do I do when she texts me "where have you been, I miss talking to you!"?
Ignore.
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Old 08-25-2016, 12:59 PM
 
Location: Scottsdale, AZ
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This girl I met at a bar gave me her number, we flirt over text and got dinner once, but now even though she texts me quite a bit, any time I suggest a time to hang out she has an excuse or is busy.

I figured out quickly I'm being used for the occasional free meal and someone to text when she's bored.

Do I just ignore her? Do I call her out on it and explain how I feel (I think that would be lame). What do I do when she texts me "where have you been, I miss talking to you!"?
Take her out to eat?
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Old 08-25-2016, 01:01 PM
 
Location: In a place beyond human comprehension
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Nothing lame or wrong with calling someone out on their crude...unless you hate confrontation.

If you really don't feel like she cares, them yes ignore. Communication goes a long way, however.
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Old 08-25-2016, 01:22 PM
 
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This girl I met at a bar gave me her number, we flirt over text and got dinner once, but now even though she texts me quite a bit, any time I suggest a time to hang out she has an excuse or is busy.

I figured out quickly I'm being used for the occasional free meal and someone to text when she's bored.

Do I just ignore her? Do I call her out on it and explain how I feel (I think that would be lame). What do I do when she texts me "where have you been, I miss talking to you!"?
If she is just using you for a free meal, why would she not want to go out with you when you suggest that? More than likely, she is juggling you with a bunch of other guys.
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Old 08-25-2016, 01:30 PM
 
Location: Dallas Texas
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You're doing it wrong, use her back! you know what Im sayin'?
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Old 08-25-2016, 01:43 PM
 
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If she is just using you for a free meal, why would she not want to go out with you when you suggest that? More than likely, she is juggling you with a bunch of other guys.
good point
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Old 08-25-2016, 01:53 PM
 
Location: State of Transition
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This girl I met at a bar gave me her number, we flirt over text and got dinner once, but now even though she texts me quite a bit, any time I suggest a time to hang out she has an excuse or is busy.

I figured out quickly I'm being used for the occasional free meal and someone to text when she's bored.

Do I just ignore her? Do I call her out on it and explain how I feel (I think that would be lame). What do I do when she texts me "where have you been, I miss talking to you!"?
If I were you, I might say the next time she says the bolded, "If you miss talking with me, why have you avoided hanging out with me?" Then block her.
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Old 08-25-2016, 01:58 PM
 
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If you do not want to feel used, don't let yourself be used.

You can choose how you go about this, but it's going to mean not allowing yourself to be put in these situations in some way.

Personally, I would just ask the person what their expectations and intentions are for wanting to see me and dating in general.

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Old 08-25-2016, 02:00 PM
 
Location: 🇬🇧 In jolly old London! 🇬🇧
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This girl I met at a bar gave me her number, we flirt over text and got dinner once, but now even though she texts me quite a bit, any time I suggest a time to hang out she has an excuse or is busy.

I figured out quickly I'm being used for the occasional free meal and someone to text when she's bored.

Do I just ignore her? Do I call her out on it and explain how I feel (I think that would be lame). What do I do when she texts me "where have you been, I miss talking to you!"?
If you feel she's " taking you for a ride ", When she does text " hey missing you " ... Suggest meeting in a place that's less expensive or extravagant instead of a dinner... And see how she responds.

That will be your answer on how to proceed
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