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Just curious what you people think about dating a woman who is getting a divorce but it's not finalized yet. In this situation, the girl said they've been growing apart for years and her husband cheated on her multiple times and told her he loves someone else. Her family also hates her soon to be ex I'm assuming bc he couldn't stay faithful. My gut tells me to remain friends until their divorce is final. She wants to sell their house and have it resolved by the end of the year. Thoughts? Experiences?
I met/went out with dozens of men who were separated and going through the divorce process, and none of the men I met, including the never married and divorced, expressed concern about dating me before my divorce was finalized. My ex and I lived in different states, and I eventually moved across the country.
My now-husband certainly didn't have a problem with it.
If they have filed and/or have paperwork in the system, which I assume she has based on your description ......then it is probably pretty solid that they will follow through. Keep in mind it may get sticky and time consuming ....like years, to finalize. But it probably has no bearing on her dating life or feelings towards you. Don't allow yourself to be one the emotional dumping ground for her over it....and you'll probably be OK.
FWIW, mine was one of those that took years to finalize and during that time I dated a lot. I kept it a private matter and didn't talk about it or involve any of them whatsoever. For the most part it worked out well that way.
She didn't file yet. She just found out about the cheating a month or so ago. I asked her about getting separated and she said she's just gonna file for divorce at the end of the year. I guess they have to wait in the house sale to figure out assets I'm not sure.
Yes, and yes. They'd have to be physically separated, with - IMO - no chance of reconciliation. Beyond that, I'd decide based on individual circumstances and what we each wanted from dating. I'd be much more careful if my goal were to find a long term relationship, as someone in this situation is less likely to be ready for one.
Most likely, the division of assets will take much longer.
Without actual paperwork in the system, it can fall either way instantly. Exercise due caution. She may (??) be looking for something on the side only, so if that is not your thing , keep it on your radar. Either way, don't get involved in the actual mess.....and I hope you're dating other women at the same time.
I would not date a woman that is married. Period. Legally Separated, thinking about it, or filed and "in the process" is not the same as being 'divorced'. I also have rule to not date women fresh out of a divorce; don't care about 'we been living apart and haven't been in love for years, yada yada' - you're still technically married.
There's so many other single people out in the world, why get caught up in the drama.
She didn't file yet. She just found out about the cheating a month or so ago. I asked her about getting separated and she said she's just gonna file for divorce at the end of the year. I guess they have to wait in the house sale to figure out assets I'm not sure.
There's a possibility she is only 'revenge dating' at this point.
Tread carefully.
Don't date separated people. They are still married and still have all kinds of legal ties. I would date a person whom was divorced for a few yrs.
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