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"I think I can.... I think I can... I know I can... I know I can!"
Actually, I appreciate your story. I had similar thoughts in my life.
It's such a load off of you when you stop with others and just focus on yourself. I too had to let go and just live MY life and let others do whatever it is they are doing.
Its more like, I am responsible for myself type of deal. cleanse your words/ thoughts. What you are looking for is inside you.
Its more like, I am responsible for myself type of deal. cleanse your words/ thoughts. What you are looking for is inside you.
It does not focus on God at all. Far from it.
Yeah, sometime ago I thought 'they can't talk or act like that to me!'
However, it's how we deal with what is thrown our way.
I haven't heard of a sailor cussing out the wind, waves and rain as if to make it change to better his trip. He just adjusts his sails to cope with the storm and continues on. It's pointless to try and make things around you do what you think should be done. It doesn't work like that. Moreover, for the sailor to grumble about something that broke during the storm when it's now sunny and calm is not good either.
Moreover, for the sailor to grumble about something that broke during the storm when it's now sunny and calm is not good either.
This is SOOO true. When I was going through this 16 months of non-verbal passive aggressive fight, I was constantly thinking back on how many things he did wrong. I was constantly thinking why is this happening to me. Dwell in self pity etc.
When I started focusing more on how to make things better for myself, I realised I have a lot of anger in me. Not because of the reason we fought but from much before. Much much before. I constantly kept thinking back....I had to come to a point when I realised I cant have these hangups if I have want really move on.
So yes, this journey took a while because I needed to really process everything.
I also went back to visit my parents for 3 months. I took the kids with me. I think the distance helped too. I left after we made peace with his approval. He realised what its like if I leave him for good. I realised what it would to kids if I left him. When I saw him after 3 months, I was very happy; it surprised me. I didnt think I would be happy to see him but I really was very happy to see him. So was he. So yes, perhaps there is that affection still left somewhere deep in the heart.
I am my world. They are a part of it. A big part, yes, but still a part.
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I am OK now. I am happy now; now I know that I am the only one responsible for my happiness/unhappiness (not him; he is responsible for his own) and if there is anyone who can change it, its me.
I am so so happy for you!!! I remember you and I told you many times to walk, that he didn't respect you. I am so glad he has turned around now that you have found yourself! {{{{{{{hugs}}}}}}}
Yeah, sometime ago I thought 'they can't talk or act like that to me!'
However, it's how we deal with what is thrown our way.
I haven't heard of a sailor cussing out the wind, waves and rain as if to make it change to better his trip. He just adjusts his sails to cope with the storm and continues on. It's pointless to try and make things around you do what you think should be done. It doesn't work like that. Moreover, for the sailor to grumble about something that broke during the storm when it's now sunny and calm is not good either.
Obviously you haven't been watching Black Sails.
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I am so so happy for you!!! I remember you and I told you many times to walk, that he didn't respect you. I am so glad he has turned around now that you have found yourself! {{{{{{{hugs}}}}}}}
"I think I can.... I think I can... I know I can... I know I can!"
Actually, I appreciate your story. I had similar thoughts in my life.
It's such a load off of you when you stop with others and just focus on yourself. I too had to let go and just live MY life and let others do whatever it is they are doing.
Here's Tina Turner chanting the chant she's talking about.
Mantra chanting has been demonstrated to have very positive effects (mind over matter) This is an ancient practice still used today by many.
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