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Old 11-21-2016, 08:50 AM
 
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Good morning all,

I have a question- one in which the guys on base have discussed to great lengths.

Would you send your wife to a concert alone? One hour in a half drive each away? Factors- she doesn't enjoy driving at night; concert time 2000 (8pm). Driving in New York can become overwhelming and she's not well versed on the area.

In totality 4.5 hour drive to New York to include parking round-trip, after sunset. Insane traffic of NY and uncertainly pertaining to location of venue.

Any thoughts...i.e. Strong ideal, bad or good..
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Old 11-21-2016, 08:53 AM
 
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The answer is no.
If I couldn't go with her, I'd insist that she go with friends. Safety in numbers!
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Old 11-21-2016, 08:54 AM
 
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I would not be comfortable with her going in those conditions.
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Old 11-21-2016, 09:05 AM
 
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Why would you be "sending" her anywhere? Does she want to go? Is she able to read a map and/or follow GPS directions? Can she take the train?


If you are using the word "send" to mean "let" then that is a whole other discussion. I don't ask my SO permission to go places by myself.
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Old 11-21-2016, 09:10 AM
 
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Good morning all,

I have a question- one in which the guys on base have discussed to great lengths.

Would you send your wife to a concert alone? One hour in a half drive each away? Factors- she doesn't enjoy driving at night; concert time 2000 (8pm). Driving in New York can become overwhelming and she's not well versed on the area.

In totality 4.5 hour drive to New York to include parking round-trip, after sunset. Insane traffic of NY and uncertainly pertaining to location of venue.

Any thoughts...i.e. Strong ideal, bad or good..
Lots of moving parts in this scenario, but, no.
If she really wanted to go all that much I would go with her. If I really HATED the concert I would take her and drop her off and entertain myself while she enjoyed her concert. Dinner afterwards.
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Old 11-21-2016, 09:12 AM
 
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I've been to several concerts alone and I live in Chicago. I don't see the problem. What's the big deal? In fact just a few weeks ago I drove myself to a concert that was over an hour away and everything was fine. I had a blast.

She's an adult so why would you have to give your permission for her do anything? She can't make her own decisions? Are you her husband or her father?
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Old 11-21-2016, 11:56 AM
 
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I've been to several concerts alone and I live in Chicago. I don't see the problem. What's the big deal? In fact just a few weeks ago I drove myself to a concert that was over an hour away and everything was fine. I had a blast.

She's an adult so why would you have to give your permission for her do anything? She can't make her own decisions? Are you her husband or her father?
The question surfaced from a colleagues . The opinions/ views varied. Said person would like to attend the concert to see her favorite songstress. The ticket in question sits around a grand in price to include a backstage pass to meet her childhood idol.

As to be expected the variables blur the lines of safety and practicality.

Perhaps , I've formulated the original post imperfectly.
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Old 11-21-2016, 12:08 PM
 
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Factors- she doesn't enjoy driving at night; concert time 2000 (8pm). Driving in New York can become overwhelming and she's not well versed on the area.
Get her a hotel in town, a shuttle to the hotel, and back. She can take a cab to the concert and back.

For the kind of money they are going to drop, make it a trip of a lifetime and splurge on your wife.
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Old 11-21-2016, 12:09 PM
 
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"Send" her? Not sure what that means.

Anyway, if she wanted to go, she should go.
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Old 11-21-2016, 12:16 PM
 
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I understood "send her" to mean the spouse is buying the ticket as a gift for his wife.
If the spouse is concerned, the suggestion to go with her to the location and find something else to do while she's in the concert is a good one.
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